this has always been my take on's not perfect but it does help ease my mind when the friendship changes or fade away

i've had these kind of friends and been this kind of friend i spent 4 years online and phoning with a friend to find myself writing him "WELL I GUESS MY JOB HERE IS DONE"...and it was...and to continue it would have held him back from making the next steps he needed to take to continue to grow his life

we r electronic Birthday and Christmas card people now and that's as it should be Chaos is the natural order of things...smooth sailing is the delusion

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person

When someone is in your life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on . When people come into your life for a SEASON...It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant . most people make the mistake of reaching too far and holding too tight to what may be only REASON and SEASON friends

the Universe will always send u more..we won't be wanting...especially if we have our head on right about the inconstancy of the flow...the ebb and tide the ocean of possibilities will still be there for us to be drawn toward...and surf board in hand we can wade in and enjoy a new tide


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quillpena May 17, 2011 @ 8:47 p.m.

I've had many friends throughout my life, but all of them fell away like dried husks and autumn leaves; all of them but two, Mark whom I've been friends with since 5th grade, and Time whom I've been friends with since junior high. I love them both like brothers. A few years ago, I was going through some very emotional issues, and I drifted out of their lives for almost two years. I finally pulled myself together and reconnected with them. They never asked me what happened or where I'd been--we just picked up where we'd left off, as if I'd just excused myself for a moment. They never judged me or tried to force themselves on me, they just gave me the time i needed. I'd do anything for these two men, and I believe they'd do anything for me. Sometimes I forget how lucky I am.


nan shartel May 17, 2011 @ 9:35 p.m.

time likes u 2 Quill ;-D

2 REAL friends r one more then many have...i've recently (in the last 2 years) lost friends thru death

my own age doesn't help where that's concerned (my poetry squeals on me about that)...the effect death has on me

but i also am fortunate enough to have friends who r close no matter how long it's been since we spoke

cybernet friends as well....hands and hearts thru the ether ;-D


Evelyn May 18, 2011 @ 10:22 a.m.

i have a pillow with the very first line of this poem embroidered on it. :) (i did it myself!)

that being shared, even though i'm still way young to really have lifelong friends, i know i have friends that i'll keep and maintain till death. and there are friends that have turned out to not be permanent, and that's okay. if they wanted to be permanent in my life, and have me be permanent in their lives, there would be more effort involved.


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