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Someone needs to explain to me, human nature in regard to competitiveness. I just don't get it.

I've been playing racquetball with a guy for 20 years. He has this subtle way of being competitive. For example, if he hits a shot that doesn't make it, but is a close call, he'll claim he didn't see it, so he doesn't have to admit it was short.

Another guy I've been playing with for five years, is a screamer. He screams at himself for missing shots. He screams at me for...well, everything. There was a time I pushed him in the chest I got so sick of his yelling. And we almost came to blows.

When I played basketball 6 days a week, I could never understand the guys on the other team cheating and making bad calls. All it does, is make OUR TEAM do the same. And then the game deteriorates.

I saw a documentary on Michael Jordan that dealt with his hardcore competitive nature. He'd punch teammates during practice if they stole the ball from him. He made another player stay after practice for an hour, to have a shooting contest (while others had to stand around waiting). But then, maybe that's what made him one of the greatest basketball players of all-time (I still say Wilt was better, but that's another argument for another time).

Recently, my racquetball partner had a heart attack 30 minutes after we played. I had noticed the two previous days, he seemed out of breath a bit more than usual. And, I was winning a few more games than I usually do.

He is going to live. He's got stints and other things going on with his ticker. But, I made the mistake of telling a female friend of mine "If he would've had a heart attack on the court, I would've still served the ball to him as he was on the ground clutching his chest. After scoring that point, then I'd call 911."

She lectured me on how horrible that was. I had to explain, that every 8 months or so, I'll slip and fall during the game. And, he thinks nothing of continuing to play and not stopping to ask if I'm okay. It would be my way of getting even.

She said, "You are no better than him."

I told her she's wrong.

But that night, I had an overwhelming desire to go to his hospital room, and start serving to him. The thought of watching those blue racquetballs whiz by his head as tubes were plugged into every oraface of his body; careening off the bed pan, hitting the IV...it made me smile.

Okay. Maybe I am as bad as him.

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Hehehehehe

That was good. This guy sounds like a real tightass. No surprise he had a heart attack.

Oct. 2, 2007

You wanting to keep serving multiple times and call out the scores you are gaining while staring at another human clutching their chest and dying, is, in a twisted manor, your competitive nature shining through. Revenge boils back to the same thing which drives others competitiveness. The act of one being selfish.

Oct. 2, 2007

I think I like hinky more than you, towelheaded. Actually, it doesn't show my "competitive nature" by doing that. "Revenge" is like the ol' "two wrongs don't make a right."

If a bully is picking on a kid, and you tell the kid to stand up for himself, and he punches the bully in the nose and is no longer bothered, I'm sure there are some that would say that's the wrong course of action. Yet, others would agree, that's the only way.

Now, where my competitiveness does show thru, is when he makes bad calls and cheats, and it makes me try so much harder to beat him, just knowing that that would kill him (not literally...or wait, maybe, literally). But even that I don't consider a "competitive response," just anger.

Oct. 3, 2007

Yeah but are you aiming to beat him using honest tactics? It would be hilarious if he played a really dirty game, you didn't and still beat him. He'd blow a vein.

Oct. 4, 2007

Yes, that's true Hinky. But he's so much better than me. Also, I don't think he sits back and reflects like that. I'm convinced nobody in society does. Everyone, everywhere, does such idiotic stuff, that I don't think later he says to himself "I cheated to win, even though I could usually beat Josh without cheating. he never cheats, and he still sometimes beats me. Damn it!!" I just think he leaves the court happy, if he wins. No matter how that win came about.

Oct. 4, 2007

Hmmm this fellow sounds like a mindless, obsessive perfectionist and a bad loser.

What's a hinkypunk, Hinkypunk?

Oct. 6, 2007

I can't believe no one here reads Harry Potter.

A Hinkypunk is a small one-legged creature which likes to lead travellers at night off the track into bog. The Muggle word for them is will-o'-the-wisp.

Oct. 7, 2007

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