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Roni met predator on Hot or Not
[Continued Part 3] The problem with the justice system is that don't see the brutality of these crimes. While Roni wasn't raped in the way I was, something of her was taken. And Pedro is a predator. You can't just say because he never broke her arm or stabbed her that she wasn't harmed. She was harmed. And predators like Pedro have no mercy. Neither Roni or her family are to blame. Pedro is a predator. Once a wolf gets his teeth in you it's pretty much over. Neither a parent or the victim can fight their way out of it. It's just good the police got involved. I don't know if this helps. I hope it does. I'm sorry Roni. I tried to put a stop to him 24 years ago, but I couldn't. I was up against to much. I hope you are okay and I know you will find someone who is good to you.— April 2, 2017 5:16 a.m.
Roni met predator on Hot or Not
[Continued from previous comment, Part 2] At the time I was a college student and soon went into a depression. I never thought Pedro would be a pedophile, but looking back I see how he could be. He can only feel for women if they are completely innocent and virginal. Women who have had sexual relations with several boyfriends or several casual encounters as is relatively normal in this modern era even for teen girls, are considered dirt to him, sullied so to speak. But here's the catch, as you give into him you then become "bad" in his eyes. That's when he punishes with the cruel words. It makes no sense. If you reject him he pursues you more. If you give in to him he begins to punish you. This craziness makes so little sense that it puts the girl off balance. I filed a restraining order against Pedro in 1993 after the rape. But he would always dodge the server so it was never put into effect. Although he never bothered me again. I could go into Pedro's family dynamic, but he's a grown man now, not a 19 or 22 year old boy. He's way past the abusive childhood excuse. It's good that this girl got away from him as soon as she did. Pedro would have eventually brutally raped her too. That would have been the natural progression of events for him. When Pedro raped me I didn't see it coming at all. He had shoved his way into to my SF flat. After over a year apart we gone on a date. I had decided that I no longer felt the same for him. But I trusted him. And although I knew he was violent I didn't think he had reason to be violent that night. Looking back I see the flaw, but at age 21 it made sense. Well, I wanted to sleep so I told him to take the couch. The next thing I know his hand was pressing on my back like a cat about the eat a mouse. As he raped me he was in clear rage. To this day I've never seen a rape in tv or movies that matches the brutal way Pedro raped me. The closest that I've ever seen to the rape I experienced at the hands of Pedro was depicted in a scene from the hbo vampire series "True Blood". I am so glad that didn't happen to Roni. I hope the mother or the family doesn't blame themselves. There's nothing you could have done short of locking your child in a room in a different country. And even then her romantic mind would have made him the love of her life because thats what teen girls do when kept away from boys/men the like. You have to understand that Pedro's ego is so huge that he believes no on is smart or strong enough to stop him. Think of the Terminator made of indestructible steel and that's Pedro's ego.— April 2, 2017 5:15 a.m.
Roni met predator on Hot or Not
I am so very sorry. I want the girl Roni to know that it's entirely his fault. I want the world to know that there's nothing this girl could have done differently that would have saved her from Pedro's clutches. I'm glad he's in jail and I hope they find a reason to never to let him out. You see in 1993 I was raped by Pedro Rodriquez. We had dated over a year earlier and he was abusive. He was drawn to me because I was new to San Francisco and extremely naive. However when I confessed that I had had more experiences with boys than I had originally told him he became abusive and violent. But I was only 19 and I had thought his rage and violence towards me was my fault. When we met he came on like a romantic hero from a Victorian novel, and yes, soon he even said he wanted to marry me. He had the intensity of Heathcliff with the courtly manner of Mr. Darcy. The girls in my dorm were envious of the amount of attention he showed me. What I'm saying, is he knew what he was doing even at the young age of 19. He's likely been perfecting it since then. I did report the rape. I even filed charges. The rape was so brutal that even the detective told me Pedro was "a monster". But the process of reporting the rape and filing charges with the San Francisco Police Department was so.....well awful. The social workers and medical staff at SF General where I was examined had me repeat the ordeal to them at least 6x's to make sure my story "was consistent". Officer Levy, who took the report pushed me into pressing charges before I was emotionally ready threatening not to even take the report unless I filed charges that exact moment. Also, Levy told me I could go ahead and wash the sheets after I had asked. The detective who took my statement was a 6'3" man with a mustache and gun at his side. I was just raped and this man's appearance and the sight of the gun scared the hell out of me so much that I could barely speak loud enough for the recorder to hear me. The detective told me they couldn't get a judge to sign a warrant to apprehend Pedro for at least 3 days because "the judge has other priorities. I went home after giving the statement and washed the sheets only to get a call from the detective 10 minutes later saying they needed the sheets for evidence. At that point it was all too much and I dropped the charges. The detective told me reopening the case would be "difficult". A few weeks later when I had regained some strength I tried to re open the case. The detective was upset at me and basicly told me it was pretty much impossible. So you see, it was just hell.— April 2, 2017 5:13 a.m.