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vodka and cran coming right up, ma'am! ;)
— November 19, 2009 11:53 a.m.

It's Better To Burn Out Than It Is To Fade

Josh, you are really one to chide about controversial topics. Your column is often very hateful to people of color, as well as women. You continue to seem astonished by this fact, but it is the truth. I really have no interest in denouncing you as masquerading as "RobertScorpio," though I think AG is onto something--he writes EXACTLY like you do. That much is clear. Oh, and as for guessing who's who on the blogs, the person who would be obsessed with that would be SurfPuppy, not AG or me. You have attempted to create the impression that we are obsessed with identity based on my occasional teasing of SurfPuppy about who he might be. SurfPuppy uses it as a tool of rhetoric, and I think his dramatic 'revelations' are harmless, and actually pretty funny sometimes. Anyway, this is NOT to say that I want to reestablish any kind of communication with you, Josh. I have my hands full being cyberstalked by this "goatttfish" fellow, who has actually inquired about me at my department at NYU, and possibly UCSD. That kind of persistence is a little worrisome, as I have not encouraged any further communication, and someone took down all of his posts on John B's thread. Arinoman, I can't prove it, but I'm keeping an eye on you. Like goatttfish, you are concerned with "subtle" racism, and have actually used this phrase, which shows repeatedly in goatttfish's rants over on Brizzolara's thread. I have no interest in functioning as Nancy Drew here, but when your department of affiliation is calling to ask about the freak sending a strange rant to them, well, you tend to be forced to get interested. Pike, sorry to carry on with this on your thread, and I promise I won't respond here further, even if someone responds with untruth about me. As for the heteronormative: I have been with the same man for about ten years without an actual ceremony. The day EVERYONE is allowed to get married, well, we might consider having a big party, but it means nothing but allowing the state into our lives, and we don't really need the official stamp. However, sometimes I say "husband" because "domestic partner" seems too long or confusing--and of course, I often get taken for gay saying this, too, though that doesn't bother me. A very interesting study could be done on how often and to whom one uses the terms "husband" or "domestic partner" or "boyfriend." ;)
— November 19, 2009 10:24 a.m.

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