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Escorts & Engagements
Josh, that goes back to Fred's observations about romantic love running it's course after about four years. I've seen couples who exist soley for the purpose of their children. They attend every thing the kid is involved in, which in my opinion is waaaay too much these days. The kids sleep in the same bed as them, run their lives, and leave them with no time to be together as husband and wife. And you know what? They like it that way. They have very little in common anymore except the children, and when they are together, their interaction with each other involves fighting. Over who is doing what, who is doing more, who is the better parent, who is contributing more - the bread-winner or the stay-at-home. Fast forward 12 years. The kids are gone, the divorce lawyer is called. I am not cheating. It hasn't been four years yet!! Alas, like Fred, everyone wants a scrap of my wisdom, but Crasher always receives the main course! I am off to check on my stable of young European lads and Texas studs. Oh, and anti, in response to your question "who raised you?" - I did.— March 18, 2009 7:37 a.m.
Kill Bill -- Two Bill's, Both Idiots
Magics, you go back to tell the manager exactly what happened, get your dinner comped, and that waitress fired. Oh, I know, all kinds of people in the food service industry are up in arms, she was just having a bad day, we will spit in your food. I say "f**k you" to the food service people. You work for TIPS. You don't have a bad day.— March 17, 2009 6:59 p.m.
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Bean, the old saying is "it's just a easy to love a rich man as it is a poor man"! Or something close to that. Fred is frolicking on the beach as we speak, with some tanned, topless, independently wealthy, emotionally secure, cultured, non-muffin-topping beauty. Doing research. And anti, I love the Dallas-Fort Worth airport. Some of the best "people" watching in the country!! Love those belt buckles!! I think we all agree Dr. Laura blows.— March 17, 2009 5:54 p.m.
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Universal preschool idea fails the grade Regarding “Invest more in students under age 5” (Opinion, Aug. 29): I have to say I expected more of a response to Julia B. Isaacs' commentary. I can only hope that the dearth of letters in response to this shameless request for a taxpayer supported baby-sitting service is the result of instant recognition of its absurdity. Writes Isaacs: “Traditionally we have regarded the care of young children as the almost exclusive domain of parents. Yet many young parents today are stretched thin, trying to care for their children while early in their own careers and family life.” Yes, we regard their care as the domain of their parents, and rightfully so. They're their children, not ours. And choosing to have a family and a career is a choice, not a given, whether it be fast-food worker or busy executive. If you are “early in your career and family life,” am I required to pick up the slack? I think not. While I can certainly sympathize with the struggle to balance work and family life, I am not going to pay to make it easier. When you make a choice, you, and only you, are responsible for the results.— March 17, 2009 5:43 p.m.
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I wasn't dating European guys, just admiring the merchandise! Okay, anti, I happen to agree that if you can stay home with your children, it is the best for all concerned. Just be comfortable with your decision. Some women make life a living hell for their husbands because they are cooped up with the kids all day while he is having adult interaction. And you get that lack of discipline thing in restaurants or other's homes because they are exhausted and just do not feel like parenting anymore. I am not making excuses - you make your bed, you lie in it. But some women have no choice but to work. And those that chose to work rather than sit home all day with kids usually have nannies or help. They don't dump them in day care. One of the most common things I've heard from women who stay home with their kids is they are ISOLATED. We no longer live in caves or in villages. Our society and the way we live does not allow for the elders and women-folk to all band together with the little 'uns. The elders are in their Winnabago on their way to Canada. The dad is golfing with his buddies. The woman who stays at home and is not the wife a wealthy man has to do all the housework, run errands, shop, cook and tow a screaming kid along while doing all this. One of the things I constantly remind people is that it is only for a few years. Soon the kid will be in school and you can start having a life. But I do agree that if you make the decision to have kids, you are responsible for making sure that someone trustworthy is taking care of them if you make the choice to work. Below is a letter to the Editor of the San Diego Union Tribune that I wrote and they published. It reflects my views pretty well.— March 17, 2009 5:43 p.m.
Music Notes...Metallica, Michael Jackson, and a Monkee in the Middle
Alright, that song was stuck in my head all day. Revenge is yours. Was that the Starland Players or something like that?— March 17, 2009 5:26 p.m.
Music Notes...Metallica, Michael Jackson, and a Monkee in the Middle
See post no. 7. The first line says it all. One could argue that a lot of pop culture is responsible for the demise of good manners in our society. Like it's cool to be a jerk.— March 17, 2009 9:38 a.m.
Kill Bill -- Two Bill's, Both Idiots
"Pounding" may have been a bit of an exaggeration. You know how little kids pet animals? With that up and down motion of their hand, but with much more force than is necessary? I did run over the minute I saw it happening, and of course the mom said "it's okay, she's fine" as if my concern for my cat was an insult to her precious brat. But I know this cat well, and I knew the bite was coming quick. That kid learned something that day. That not all animals are stuffed. You know, this goes back to that thread about standing up to bullies. We so want to avoid confrontation that we put up with horrible service, clueless friends, and people that cut you off in line. This happened to me skiing. I was in line, but to the side, and two women cut right in front of me. They saw me, but rather than ask "are you in line?" they just pushed right on past me. I didn't say anything. Fortunately, one of the people working there saw what was going on and said "I'll help you". They looked over at me and got sheepish. That felt good. That moment of public shaming when someone gets caught in the act and someone else calls them on it. But it builds up, so that when we do finally get pissed, people think we are crazy or out of control. It should be more like a slow release of air from a tire. Or maybe people should just be more considerate, and none of this would be necessary.— March 17, 2009 9:35 a.m.
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There are so many things wrong with that - it would take too much thought to figure out why certain parents exploit their kids for money. Dina Lohan comes to mind. Her kid is f**ked for life. And these kids were presented to our kids as "innocent" "virgins" etc. What a bunch of crap. Europeans are far more comfortable with their bodies than we are. I had a boyfriend who was German. His parents came to America from Germany. When we would visit them, I would see them naked all the time! Not on purpose! Like one time, I got up in the morning to go pee, and there was his mom, loading the dryer stark naked. I went skiing with him and his dad once. We go to his dad's room to get him and he says "come in". There he is, in his bikini underwear. I almost died. See, part of our problem here is that we market a certain perfection that is not attainable to the mere mortal. Were we to be more realistic about our bodies, we would be far more comfortable with nudity and even speedos. Of course you are fine with topless women in the UK. As long as they are young and perky. That is the double standard for you, right there.— March 17, 2009 9:20 a.m.
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Sorry, I got lazy and started losing my fight. Yeah, I was raised by a working mother who worked in an industry dominated by men. She was a senior draftsman for a design company, and she went on to manage at IBM. She got her private pilot's license, and flew her own Beechcraft Debonair that she owned with her boyfriend. While she was not perfect, she instilled in us a certain amount of confidence that if the boys could do it, so could we. It's like women gained so much and then slid backward. So many of my friends stopped working when they had children. I had one who got all wrapped up in Dr. Laura to support her decision to stay home. I finally convinced her that Dr. Laura was a nut, but she was ready to come to that conclusion on her own after she realized that she was just getting angrier at her husband the more he tried to support her. All the girls now want to be celebrities or make money with their bodies. And you're right about their role models. What a bunch of losers. You know that Hannah Montana girl is a year away from rehab. Fred bowed out of this, but I really should have called him on something. I, too, have been to Europe, and the men there are divine. Slender, good-looking, interesting. Not that they do not exist here, but the ratio is low. And the women here, and particularly in Southern California, are making themselves nuts, trying to be all things. Forever young, desperate for a man after 40, working in fields that are so competetive that their souls are dead. I actually wish we were more like Europe, where the sexes are allowed to be separate but equal.— March 17, 2009 8 a.m.