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The sexual harassment allegations lodged against Mayor Bob Filner may be more far-reaching than previously reported.

There are now claims that the mayor’s advances toward women were directed not only at members of his staff and city employees.

The most recent woman to make allegations says she learned how forward Filner was at a monthly meet-and-greet event at city hall earlier this year.

The woman, who prefers to remain anonymous, says she met with the mayor to inform him of an important issue in her community. She says she waited in a line for more than an hour to do so.

When her turn came, she entered an enclosed cubicle where Filner sat at a desk next to mayoral staff member Willie Blair. The woman explained her complaints. A few minutes later, she says Filner told Blair to leave the cubicle.

“After he excused Blair, he told me that he thought I was a very attractive woman and asked if I would go out with him,” says the woman in a July 14 email.

“I thought he was making a joke and told him that I knew he had a very attractive fiancée. He then repeated that he would like to go out with me. He never acknowledged my comment about his fiancée. He then said he would like to kiss me. I did not acknowledge him. He leaned over and kissed me anyway. I got up and left.”

The woman says she told some friends about the incident but chose to not file a formal complaint. She decided to come forward after hearing allegations from other women.

The statement is the first detailed account to come to light since attorneys Cory Briggs and Marco Gonzalez and former councilmember Donna Frye came forward with the allegations in letters to Filner and at a July 11 press conference.

One day later, on July 12, Filner issued a statement, agreeing to cooperate with investigators from the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission did not respond to questions about whether investigators look into harassment charges from constituents.

Update: The woman provided attorney Cory Briggs with a sworn affidavit, according to a story by KPBS.

"This story has been updated to more accurately reflect the woman's statement. Her quote about her friends remembering how upset she was was added after being asked whether she told anyone about the incident."

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Sjtorres July 14, 2013 @ 6:44 p.m.

And Don Bauder wants this creep to remain mayor.


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 6:55 p.m.

The details were not out at that time, Sjtorres. This is the first account so far. From what I hear, more are on the way, unfortunately.


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 10:54 p.m.

Dorian, we have had quite enough people "hearing" things about this serious matter. Best to just report the facts.


rocky_rhodes July 14, 2013 @ 8:11 p.m.

they dont meet the mayor in a enclosed cubicle at meet an greet its in the lobby this lady is a liar


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 9:53 p.m.

Please see the comment below. I wrote this after much consideration and am confident in the source and her story as well.


BlueSouthPark July 14, 2013 @ 8:15 p.m.

"it wasn’t until this past week when her friends remembered the story."

Did she forget the story too? I'm sorry, but this occurrence, these actions, aren't something anyone forgets, first- or secondhand. Did you ask why she didn't react, yell, smack him, curse him, jump up and leave the cubicle and complain, or call for someone to come into the enclosed cubicle and hear her complaint about what just happened? Why would she just tell her friends and then never say a word until now? How could her friends not have talked about a Mayor doing this? It's like all of a sudden women have become repressed maidens? I'm sorry, this is just ridiculous. Modern women are not helpless and ashamed to express themselves, and noisy reaction and response is a normal expectation on the heels of such treatment in a public setting.

As for this being the "most recent woman to make allegations" - she's the only woman. Others have spoken about unnamed others, who have made no specific allegations. Take it to court, not to the media. If more are on the way, they should occur in court, under oath.


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 9:47 p.m.

No, she didn't forget the story. And yes she did leave the cubicle. As for the most "recent" statement, I agree that it's misleading and incorrect. I will change it now. Thanks!-dH


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 9:30 p.m.

Gosh, I forgot to tell in my email about the non-consensual sex part. It was hard to do it in the cubicle in City Hall, mostly because the cubicle is small and kind of hidden. And afterward, I was so traumatized and scared I just totally blanked out until today, Sunday, July 14, when my friends reminded me about it! I wanted to confide in Donna Frye so she could stand up and talk about me without naming names, but she had her press conference before I could even remember my story! Anyway, I really would like to confide in Donna and ask those two strong lawyers who were with her if they would represent me on a contingency basis because I haven't been paid off yet. Well, what I mean is, I don't have any money right now, I'm sort of low on cash. I don't want to say my name either because it's just better not to. Remind me, who were those lawyers again -- Manuel Gomez and Cary Bragg? Their number's probably in the book.


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 9:49 p.m.

This is not the series of events. She has been in contact with the lawyers since finding out about this. As I wrote in another response, the reaction from friends was just a way for her to express, when asked, what she felt about it and if she told anyone. She did not want to press charges. Nor is she looking for any money. Thanks!-dH


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 10:38 p.m.

1) Dorian, sorry if you didn't get the sardonic tone of my riff on what you have reported. I'm just exaggerating for effect here because I am skeptical about what you have been told and then passed along to us.

2) I don't understand what you're saying about "the reaction from friends." This new nameless person either remembers the incident on her own or was reminded by friends. Which is it? Was she out of town and thus didn't know that sexual harassment allegations were being publicly leveled against Mayor Filner until she returned home and was reminded by friends of her own unwanted experience from months ago that she never did anything about? This is hard to buy.

3) Also enlighten us: you say she has been in contact with the lawyers but that she does not want to press charges. Why would someone be in touch with lawyers if one wasn't planning to press charges? No offense, but why would she call the Reader without giving specifics, like her name and the date of her appearance at City Hall, so that the story could be verified?

4) Finally, how do you know she isn't looking for any money? Because she said she wasn't? I mean, is she your mother? And if she is your mom, I thought journalists were supposed to verify even mothers' stories.


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 11:10 p.m.

Let's address #4 first. I'd appreciate it if you not mention my mother or anything about my mother again. It's completely ridiculous.

Now back to the story and your comments:

--The woman said her friends remember how upset she was. They didn't say they had to remind her about anything. I am not sure why she said this other than to try and answer my question about the events and who she told. I removed the quote and explained it more clearly.

--She has been in touch with Donna Frye, Cory Briggs and Marco Gonzalez. That's what I mean't by lawyers. She did give specifics but did not want her name used. Sounds strange that you don't respect that decision but, oh well.

I interviewed this woman and took her statement. If you don't believe her then that's fine. If you wish to dream up elaborate conspiracies about her and her motives fine. I only wrote this because I was sure about my source, this lady. Thanks.


monaghan July 15, 2013 @ 5:43 p.m.

Dorian, I meant no disrespect to your actual mother. I was using an old figure of speech that describes (as a positive attribute) the extent of journalists' innate skepticism about all information from all sources -- and the need to check and corroborate anything journalists are told by anyone before running it in the paper. That woman could have been Mother Teresa, but for her story to hold up it either should have had certain facts or explicit assurances that you had checked her facts, found those facts to be true, and decided not to divulge them in order to protect her identity.

Good you removed the confusing quote about her being reminded.

I have no problem with the woman requiring anonymity. I have no problem with the woman going to lawyers. I do have a problem with the woman contacting the Reader with a very serious allegation against the Mayor, demanding anonymity and getting it from you so that you could print a story that was actually full of holes.
1) WHO - a nameless female constituent -- "constituent" being the new information -- a person whose story was uncorroborated by anybody else or any sign-in document; 2) WHAT - she alleges a graphic unwanted sexual encounter with the Mayor; 3) WHEN - no date was provided; 4) WHERE - at City Hall 5) WHYS - she says she does not intend to file charges, but then why wouldn't you query her resolve when she says she's in touch with the team of lawyers who are publicly demanding the Mayor's resignation and threatening lawsuits against him.

It's not the woman I don't believe, Dorian, I'm looking for missing facts to support the story. My criticism is not "conspiracy." I look to you for information about this person and her motives. You didn't tell her name or, alternatively, that YOU KNOW FOR A FACT that she signed in at City Hall on a given date to talk to the Mayor, or that YOU HAVE CONFIRMED HER STORY by talking to SOME WITNESS or friend who may have accompanied her that day or by talking to even one of the friends to whom she may have confided her distress. Your need to take responsibility for what information you don't divulge. Your "confidence" in the source is not enough for me when the allegations are unsubstantiated and the potential damage is so great.


BlueSouthPark July 14, 2013 @ 9:40 p.m.

Wow, channel 10 is reporting what is on the Reader. Ch 10 says the Reader informer sent her story the the Reader by email, so no face-to-face interview? And that means that her friends were not interviewed in person to corroborate her story? Not good enough.


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 9:51 p.m.

I spoke to this woman on the phone. I have spoken to her on other issues as well in the past. I wouldn't have written it if not confident in the source and confident that this occurred.


beachcam July 14, 2013 @ 11:57 p.m.

Did anyone think of contactting Willie Blair. To confirm if he was actually asked leave. He should remember since the once a month meet the Mayor event has only happened a few times since Filner has taken office. Oh that's right, confimation is not a requirment when submitting blogs to the Reader.


laplayaheritage July 14, 2013 @ 9:40 p.m.

There are Police officers in uniforms that have direct visual site access to the cubicles.


laplayaheritage July 14, 2013 @ 11:21 p.m.

That is how the layout is set up during the First Saturday morning meetings with the Mayor. In the ground floor lobby.


aardvark July 15, 2013 @ 2:48 p.m.

So then there are either many witnesses, or the woman is lying?


Sjtorres July 14, 2013 @ 10:02 p.m.

The diehard liberals will defend Filner to the end despite the evidence. And they will use character assassination against anyone that threatens his hold on power.


WomansRoar July 14, 2013 @ 10:38 p.m.

I like Filner's policies as much as any good liberal, but do we really think it's worth it to shame women and call them liars for coming forward? If you think Filner deserves the benefit of the doubt and due process, fine. But let's give a little consideration and benefit of the doubt to the women he allegedly abused. The shitty comments (and poor reading comprehension, from what I can gather) in this string of posts are victim-blaming at their worst. Are you trying to scare more women away from coming forward? A good friend of mine had a very similar (but much more humiliating) encounter with Filner, and this is EXACTLY why she hasn't come forward. She knows she'll be attacked. But now she's determined to do it because she sees him lying. He shouldn't get a pass on treating women like shit because he has good progressive policies. After all, treating women with respect IS a good progressive value -- one we're winning elections on.


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 11:20 p.m.

No one is shaming anyone or calling anyone liars.

If charges of unwanted sexual attention or CHARGES OF ANY DAMAGING SORT are leveled against someone by name and they are brought to a reporter, the complainant had better be prepared to present the facts of the incident so that it can be verified by the reporter and then made public.

It's what Frye and the lawyers shamefully did not do vis a vis employees at City Hall. And it's happening again here, only this time it's a reporter passing on an anonymous allegation from a constituent. Scared is not a defense or an excuse for subterfuge. It takes courage to speak out and seek justice.

Dorian's story is not good enough, just as BlueSouthPark said. Dorian has gone with the story prematurely and never even asked, checked or reported the date when this incident is alleged to have occurred.


Dorian Hargrove July 14, 2013 @ 11:23 p.m.

I know the date, Monaghan. This woman asked that I not use it. She is active in her community and wishes to stay anonymous.


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 11:31 p.m.

You should have said so in your story. Have you checked it out?


WomansRoar July 15, 2013 @ 8:06 p.m.

No one is shaming anyone or calling them liars? How about this:

rocky_rhodes July 14, 2013 @ 8:11 p.m.

they dont meet the mayor in a enclosed cubicle at meet an greet its in the lobby this lady is a liar


rocky_rhodes July 15, 2013 @ 10:09 p.m.

i stand by my comment she must be a liar cause her story doesnt hold water


rdotinga July 14, 2013 @ 10:51 p.m.

Women who come forward will be mocked as fabulists, scorned as sluts and accused of being opportunists. This is just the beginning.


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 11:29 p.m.

No, Randy Dotinga from VoiceofSanDiego, this is not the beginning. This is the continuation of a brutal attempt to discredit and remove Mayor Filner from office. Your paper was scandalously complicit in this effort for the entire year preceding the election with its scurrilous coverage of Filner and its love affair with third-place mayoral finisher handsome Nathan Whatsisname. Are you saying women should not come forward if they've been mistreated or wronged? Who will protect them if they do not protect themselves?


beachcam July 14, 2013 @ 11:09 p.m.

Wow! An anonymous email to the Reader? Was she afraid her name would be seen amongst all the plastic surgery, male/female enhancement, and other "self improvement/egocentric" ads that keep this fine journalistic paper afloat. Did your staff at least offer her blog space or $50 dollars for being a Neighborhood Stringer? Fact checking has never been the Readers strong suit, so the author of this "article" word that this anonymous woman is credible isn't enough.
Until a actual victim goes on the record, files a complaint, and/or law enforcement gets involved, its all gossip and speculation.


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 11:53 p.m.

I think factual accuracy is a Reader strong suit. This reporter knows this source, but accorded her anonymity for the purpose of getting the story. He also was told the date of the alleged incident, but he didn't share it with his readers, and whether he's had a chance to check its veracity is unknown. Obviously, that's important and probably will happen when City Hall opens for business tomorrow.

Otherwise, beachcam, I am with you: until a victim goes on record and files a complaint, it is all gossip and speculation -- and maybe keeping it there is where Filner's enemies see their greatest advantage.


beachcam July 15, 2013 @ 12:23 a.m.

Just ask Willie Blair if he was asked to leave. He should remember the alleged encounter since the "once a month" Meet the Mayor event has happened only a few times since Filner has taken office. Stop defending the blogger for his mistakes, he doesn't need to vet/verify/confirm anything because there is no Consiquence anymore for posting false/speculative information on a blog site. This blogger got what he wanted, his "exclusive" is being mentioned/re-posted on/in main stream media. And the Reader gets more hits. So everyone gets what they want except its still spectulation and rumor. The Daily Mirror, NY Post and the other tabloids are in good company here in San Diego.


rdotinga July 15, 2013 @ 12:34 a.m.

It's fine to debate the use of anonymous sources in journalism, even anonymously (although that's certainly ironic).

It's not fine to impugn a journalist's integrity based on assumptions and bad information.

Dorian is a professional journalist with a fine track record who follows the ethical standards of our profession. He is NOT some "blogger" who's accountable to no one.


monaghan July 15, 2013 @ 10:59 a.m.

Dotinga, don't you have another line of work? You seem not to know who to defend first -- anonymous women who seek to defame the Mayor, over-enthusiastic reporter Dorian Hargrove who jumped the gun on this one with an incomplete non-Reader-like story. It's unnecessary.


laplayaheritage July 14, 2013 @ 11:18 p.m.

The women would never be mocked. There is nothing to fear.

The only person being scorned as a slut and shamed is the Mayor for inappropriate behavior.

If sexual harassment occurred or is occurring please call 911 and file a criminal complaint with the Police.

If lessor harm has come to women, please fill out a Civil complaint with the Office of the City Attorney.


rdotinga July 14, 2013 @ 11:25 p.m.

Read the rest of the thread, La Playa. The attempts at humiliation have already started.


monaghan July 14, 2013 @ 11:36 p.m.

What on earth are you talking about? Do you even know?


WomansRoar July 15, 2013 @ 8:08 p.m.

rocky_rhodes July 14, 2013 @ 8:11 p.m.

"they dont meet the mayor in a enclosed cubicle at meet an greet its in the lobby this lady is a liar"


SurfPuppy619 July 15, 2013 @ 1:03 a.m.

There are Police officers in uniforms that have direct visual site access to the cubicles.

When I met with Mayor Mo in 1988 there were 3 staffers and one cop with a great big gun bulging out of his jacket, I find it very hard to believe Filner was meeting with the public w/o any security whatsoever......


sarahguzman July 15, 2013 @ 5:59 a.m.

Come on Dorian! You can't call this reporting. The anonymous Women must come out and deal with the consequences of their accusations. Don't get defensive about this. You are contributing to this "anonymous" lynching of the Mayor. Last time anyone tried to kiss me or touch me without consent they got a good slap. Give me a break, they better have more than this. We will see what happens later today.


Sjtorres July 15, 2013 @ 7:12 a.m.

According to Lorena Gonzalez, she's talked to more than one woman that was in on the receiving end of Filner's behavior, and it "goes beyond harassment."

Despicable behavior for a mayor. What do we tell our kids? If you have power you can get away with it?


HonestGovernment July 15, 2013 @ 9:54 a.m.

Thanks for the referral to the KPBS report, DH.

Why didn't you say the woman is 72 years old, for christ's sake? I respect her dislike for Filner's grabby behavior, but all this amounts to is an inappropriate expressiveness and a stupid display of affection typical of many older men, who feel comfortable and loving with grandmotherly women. Some women think it's cute, some are repelled. It aint sex! And hardly harassment.

I kind of figured it was the same person KPBS mentioned in audio only, previously, given that DH had been on the KPBS radio show recently with KPBS reporters.


monaghan July 15, 2013 @ 11:13 a.m.

The issue here is that Dorian Hargrove, heroic chronicler of the famous Bank of America chalker's case, just couldn't resist running with a hot story and he didn't vet the information in a professional manner.

As for loving grandmotherly women in their '70's and sexual response, that could be a book!


Dorian Hargrove July 15, 2013 @ 12:08 p.m.

Monaghan, This wasn't a "hot story." It's a rather sad story if you ask me. I would like to think that any journalist who has dealt with an individual for several years on different stories is a reliable source. This was the case here. Trust me, I would have rather not reported it but being that a reliable source told me, I felt obligated to do so. I understand you support Mayor Filner. Please understand that I would have written about this regardless of who was mayor and regardless whether or not it was, as you say, a "hot story."dH


monaghan July 15, 2013 @ 6:18 p.m.

Sad, sadder, saddest. So it is. Where have I heard that "trust me" refrain before? Oh right, it was Donna Frye, former friend of Bob Filner. I am a longtime supporter of Bob Filner, dating from his time on the School Board. I deplore his alleged behavior. I also believe his stated resolve to change and I am glad he is not sick at heart and throwing in the towel. Reporters like you need better direction, Dorian, and you will thrive. This is nobody's finest hour.


rdotinga July 15, 2013 @ 12:09 p.m.

Wow, this is helpful. I did not know that it's impossible for older women to be sexually harassed.


Dorian Hargrove July 15, 2013 @ 12:17 p.m.

Honest Government, I have several sources who I respect as people and value as a source for information. I am sure you can understand this. This was a random instance where one of these women happened to be a person I knew. As for the grandmotherly affection, I don't agree. She was there working on an issue important to her. Not there to be kissed, grabbed, or treated like a grandmother. dH


monaghan July 15, 2013 @ 12:06 p.m.

Since HonestGov mentions this flawed story's KPBS link: In a rare-as-hen's-teeth appearance, a Reader reporter (Dorian Hargrove) recently was on KPBS along with David Rolland of CityBeat and, as I recall, Tony Perry of the LA Times. Dorian was invited presumably on the strength of his excellent Reader coverage of the vindicated Bank of America Chalker. Maybe this represented a sea-change at KPBS which, IMO, would be strengthened with regular Reader representation on its editors' roundtables.

But as a rule over many years, the Reader has been excluded from the chummy weekly press confabs of KPBS News, probably because the Reader has kept a critical eye on that PBS/SDSU-run operation whose newsroom is named after its heavy-hitter philanthropic angels, Irwin and Joan Jacobs.

Also as a rule, while KPBS may use Reader stories as the basis for KPBS reportage, it is NEVER the other way around. In this instance, novice Reader reporter Dorian Hargrove seems not to have understood his alternative weekly's reportorial independence and he inadvertently piggy-backed with KPBS on a very incomplete report.


Dorian Hargrove July 15, 2013 @ 12:12 p.m.

Wow. You are really searching for ways around this. This report has nothing to do with my appearance on KPBS. I found out about this by calling a longtime and very reliable contact for a different topic. We started talking, as we always have, and she told me about the incident. There is no conspiracy. This was completely random. As for KPBS knowing about the story, read theirs again and you will see they were talking to Cory Briggs. They didn't even mention mine. dH


Fred Williams July 15, 2013 @ 12:42 p.m.

If Dorian Hargrove interviews a woman he knows from his previous reporting work, gets details, and reports them...

...my previous support of Filner, all the while acknowledging he's a huge jerk who I personaly dislike, is now wavering.

I don't trust hacks like Dotinga or the drones at the UT, but I do respect the work of Mr. Hargrove. Let's see more details and specifics of the allegations. It's not looking good for Bob Filner.

That's a tragedy for San Diego, because we know who will take his place.


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