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There was a guy that wrote some neat stuff for the Reader many years ago, no idea where he ran off to. Wish I could've talked to him. He did Tijuana stories before I ever came here. His name escapes me at the moment, but I think he was a Jewish fellow. I'll look it up if anyone's interested. Anyway, back then, I wouldn't have known any different. I believed anything that anyone ever told me about Tijuana. So years later, I meet a writer who knew him, she asked me about him, wondered if I knew him. Heck, I wouldn't have known if he ever set foot here. He likely did, though. But the thing is, no one should have such preconceived notions about this place. I keep wondering how such a white gringo could feel so lucky as to have met with such a great opportunity to live here. And to have the opportunity to write about it? Oh, man, that's frosting on the cake. You know, Russ, I hate to see that frosting wasted, spread all over something that no one can eat, never to be tasted. But yeah, the Reader and other publications print what they print, I understand. There's some magic formula apparently, and if I knew what that was then I probably would be in publishing. Ever been to the City Coroner, here? Weird stuff. The big roll-up door is almost always open. No one's interested in the dead in that place. I saw a pal draped over the side of a metal table, lifeless limbs dangling like dead branches in a wintertime in some other colder climate. I wrote about that. The Reader wouldn't touch it in a million years. I understood why. He was a friend of mine, nothing more and nothing less. It just wasn't that interesting to anyone else. No prostitutes, no lice. Not a single transexual within miles of that place. Not even a single impounded car. Boring, I reckon.
— November 28, 2010 2:03 a.m.
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Ha! Great quotes! One novel is finished, waiting for the right climate to shop it. I call it "Breaking Judas", but some screwed-up literary editor will insist I rename it. The other is still in the oven, baking. I'd bet cash money the second one sells first, it's about as autobiographical as a novel can get changing the names to protect the innocent. That one will piss some people off. The finished one is much more of a story though, it's like this girlfriend I've been courting and I'll be damned if she'll ever give me at least one dance before they turn out the lights. I've never met a church-going person that would dare entertain Judas as having a relevant role in the birth of Christianity, but that's the basis of the novel. No man is born to be a traitor. I never believed for one minute that Jesus didn't have to spend hours breaking Judas, convincing him that the most important thing in the world was Jesus being nailed to that cross. There isn't much of a mention of religion in the book, but the implications are obvious. It's never really about a few pieces of silver. At our very best, we often do what makes no sense to anyone for a few hundred years, and then one day someone comes along and points it out, and everyone says, "Well, for crying out loud, of course!" That's one thing I've learned in my life that I would really love to share. Hope it gets published someday.
— November 28, 2010 1:39 a.m.
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We still have 'em :) They're disappearing here too, but when the 17-year old wants to talk about sex with her squirrel of a boyfriend, that's where they hang out. I can see it from the bedroom window, so she isn't going to get away with much ;)
— November 27, 2010 9:29 p.m.
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The trip was great and practically uneventful. Honest story, took all of a couple of minutes: I was three pesos short on my purchase. It was either that or to have the lady change a twenty-dollar bill. "Next time," she told me in Spanish. I came back home and Anna had returned. Since she wanted to go make a telephone call at the phone booth over there, she offered to pay the lady the three pesos I owed. Welcome to Baja. It's like OB, except you owe three pesos instead of a quarter ;) And I have also given away food to hungry people with less change than they should have had. What goes around, comes around. Sometimes the bear eats you and sometimes you eat the bear. This is what happens :)
— November 27, 2010 8:26 p.m.
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Best I can relate it: A lot of people have told me that I'm a pretty good cook. Now, my father is an excellent cook and so was his mother so maybe there's some sort of cooking genes, no idea, but I'm delighted when people like my food enough to compliment me on it. And then someone is bound to tell me this: "You should open your own restaurant." What I wind up telling them is that I'm willing to accept (and very much appreciate) being considered a good cook. But what in the hell do I know about running a restaurant? Two different things, cooking and running an eatery. I know that from experience. I ran a grill and didn't make much money from it, but the food was stellar according to patrons. I reckon it's the same thing with writing and publishing. I'm willing to confess that I have no idea about publishing, and I'm willing to throw in the towel here, at least. People really want lice and prostitutes? Heck, maybe they do. There's no accounting for the tastes of the public, I mean, how many "Home Alone" movies did some of us have to suffer through before they finally pulled the plug on that nightmare? I don't know, Ms. Grant. I have no answers. I'm going to the store, I need a couple of packs of cigarettes and a bottle of Fresca. I only know that there will be no lice and no prostitutes and that no cop is going to shake me down on this trip. If the masses want to believe otherwise, then who am I to tell them different? Heck, it never even occurred to me that Tijuana had a section on Craig's List. We're just people here. We go to the store sometimes. It isn't much different than going to the store in OB. We just speak a different language and our colorful money looks a little odd in comparison.
— November 27, 2010 7:44 p.m.
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I think if I was born to be a writer, then I was likely born to be a novelist, nan. Biggest complaint from my friends? "tl;dr" (too long; didn't read). Not my wife nor any of my children read a damned word I write these days. My wife has a couple of times a while back, about a few thousand words of the half-million I likely have embedded online. Know what she had to say about it? "Yeah, that's pretty much true." I had to laugh and kiss her on the forehead. I love her pragmatic approach to everything. That's why I married that beauty. My youngest read the story I wrote here about the lesbians, and I adore lesbians who do not hate men, (you non-man-hating lesbians are so stellar and fair and honest!) but I think my daughter was embarrassed by it. But it was true, every word. I hope my little girl at least respects her father for his honesty. I've never lied to her. The language I use in front of her would shock the Sunday preacher. Why would I behave any differently in front of her than I would paling around with my beer-guzzling friends taking in a football game at the local pub? But no lice and no prostitutes. I'm not out for the Happy Hooker award in journalism. I just like to write, and I'm long-winded and unafraid to tell a tale on myself. I know it isn't what people want to buy these days. No boy-wizards, no vampires and werewolves. I know I'm up against it. But I have to be honest, even writing fiction, it has to be based on absolute truth. Steinbeck did that, you know. I'm not anywhere close to Steinbeck's amazing ability to paint a picture with words, but the least I can do is to not embarrass myself writing about where I live when the publication prints the exact opposite representation of it from other writers. One of us will look the fool. They know what makes them money, I'll trust their judgment and move on. No regrets.
— November 27, 2010 6:41 p.m.
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A LOT of healthy fear, ma'am. She knows where I store my cast-iron skillets and she knows exactly where I sleep ;)
— November 27, 2010 6:09 p.m.
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You are so beautiful. Thank you so much :)
— November 27, 2010 5:53 p.m.
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Don't know where Suz is hanging out, but I miss her lots. Closing on Roth, I think that a lot of men are afraid of women. I think that Roth, underneath his character's insecurities, might have simply came straight out and proclaimed that many men are scared as kittens (pun intended, sex with a cat and all). Therein, lies that shame you see. At fifteen all they want to do is to have sex, and they're incapable of enduring the process other than to mate like some wild animal. Sometimes that never goes away in a man, he finds himself still unable to cope with the emotion that his would-be mate feels approaching the same event. The guy worries about getting her bra-strap undone, the girl was past that part a long time ago, she's worrying what he's going to tell his pals the next day before he even has his pants undone. It isn't the act, nothing should ever contain such angst as a man makes sex out to be, but he'll as soon blame a woman for his own insecurity than he'll look at himself in the mirror and admit that he'll never understand what she feels when they're naked and rolling around in the sheets. I think that Roth's inability to rationalize a sexual relationship brought on however the critics receive his work. We're not supposed to understand each other, I've had a lot of time to learn that lesson. We just live with each other, choose mates, no magic wand in that (again, pardon the pun). I've read quite a bit about how neurotic Roth was, but I'm not convinced that us neurotic people aren't our own worst enemies. Everything I ever wanted to teach my kids about sex can be found in the movie 'Bull Durham'. It's a simple thing that a lot of people want to make complex. I'll take Costner and Sarandon over Phillip Roth any day of the week. Clear the milk and the cornflakes off the the breakfast table and ignore the cat, it's a much healthier approach ;)
— November 27, 2010 5:13 p.m.
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I wish that Suz was around for this discussion, her literary takes are profound.
— November 27, 2010 4:04 p.m.
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There was a guy that wrote some neat stuff for the Reader many years ago, no idea where he ran off to. Wish I could've talked to him. He did Tijuana stories before I ever came here. His name escapes me at the moment, but I think he was a Jewish fellow. I'll look it up if anyone's interested. Anyway, back then, I wouldn't have known any different. I believed anything that anyone ever told me about Tijuana. So years later, I meet a writer who knew him, she asked me about him, wondered if I knew him. Heck, I wouldn't have known if he ever set foot here. He likely did, though. But the thing is, no one should have such preconceived notions about this place. I keep wondering how such a white gringo could feel so lucky as to have met with such a great opportunity to live here. And to have the opportunity to write about it? Oh, man, that's frosting on the cake. You know, Russ, I hate to see that frosting wasted, spread all over something that no one can eat, never to be tasted. But yeah, the Reader and other publications print what they print, I understand. There's some magic formula apparently, and if I knew what that was then I probably would be in publishing. Ever been to the City Coroner, here? Weird stuff. The big roll-up door is almost always open. No one's interested in the dead in that place. I saw a pal draped over the side of a metal table, lifeless limbs dangling like dead branches in a wintertime in some other colder climate. I wrote about that. The Reader wouldn't touch it in a million years. I understood why. He was a friend of mine, nothing more and nothing less. It just wasn't that interesting to anyone else. No prostitutes, no lice. Not a single transexual within miles of that place. Not even a single impounded car. Boring, I reckon.— November 28, 2010 2:03 a.m.
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Ha! Great quotes! One novel is finished, waiting for the right climate to shop it. I call it "Breaking Judas", but some screwed-up literary editor will insist I rename it. The other is still in the oven, baking. I'd bet cash money the second one sells first, it's about as autobiographical as a novel can get changing the names to protect the innocent. That one will piss some people off. The finished one is much more of a story though, it's like this girlfriend I've been courting and I'll be damned if she'll ever give me at least one dance before they turn out the lights. I've never met a church-going person that would dare entertain Judas as having a relevant role in the birth of Christianity, but that's the basis of the novel. No man is born to be a traitor. I never believed for one minute that Jesus didn't have to spend hours breaking Judas, convincing him that the most important thing in the world was Jesus being nailed to that cross. There isn't much of a mention of religion in the book, but the implications are obvious. It's never really about a few pieces of silver. At our very best, we often do what makes no sense to anyone for a few hundred years, and then one day someone comes along and points it out, and everyone says, "Well, for crying out loud, of course!" That's one thing I've learned in my life that I would really love to share. Hope it gets published someday.— November 28, 2010 1:39 a.m.
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We still have 'em :) They're disappearing here too, but when the 17-year old wants to talk about sex with her squirrel of a boyfriend, that's where they hang out. I can see it from the bedroom window, so she isn't going to get away with much ;)— November 27, 2010 9:29 p.m.
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The trip was great and practically uneventful. Honest story, took all of a couple of minutes: I was three pesos short on my purchase. It was either that or to have the lady change a twenty-dollar bill. "Next time," she told me in Spanish. I came back home and Anna had returned. Since she wanted to go make a telephone call at the phone booth over there, she offered to pay the lady the three pesos I owed. Welcome to Baja. It's like OB, except you owe three pesos instead of a quarter ;) And I have also given away food to hungry people with less change than they should have had. What goes around, comes around. Sometimes the bear eats you and sometimes you eat the bear. This is what happens :)— November 27, 2010 8:26 p.m.
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Best I can relate it: A lot of people have told me that I'm a pretty good cook. Now, my father is an excellent cook and so was his mother so maybe there's some sort of cooking genes, no idea, but I'm delighted when people like my food enough to compliment me on it. And then someone is bound to tell me this: "You should open your own restaurant." What I wind up telling them is that I'm willing to accept (and very much appreciate) being considered a good cook. But what in the hell do I know about running a restaurant? Two different things, cooking and running an eatery. I know that from experience. I ran a grill and didn't make much money from it, but the food was stellar according to patrons. I reckon it's the same thing with writing and publishing. I'm willing to confess that I have no idea about publishing, and I'm willing to throw in the towel here, at least. People really want lice and prostitutes? Heck, maybe they do. There's no accounting for the tastes of the public, I mean, how many "Home Alone" movies did some of us have to suffer through before they finally pulled the plug on that nightmare? I don't know, Ms. Grant. I have no answers. I'm going to the store, I need a couple of packs of cigarettes and a bottle of Fresca. I only know that there will be no lice and no prostitutes and that no cop is going to shake me down on this trip. If the masses want to believe otherwise, then who am I to tell them different? Heck, it never even occurred to me that Tijuana had a section on Craig's List. We're just people here. We go to the store sometimes. It isn't much different than going to the store in OB. We just speak a different language and our colorful money looks a little odd in comparison.— November 27, 2010 7:44 p.m.
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I think if I was born to be a writer, then I was likely born to be a novelist, nan. Biggest complaint from my friends? "tl;dr" (too long; didn't read). Not my wife nor any of my children read a damned word I write these days. My wife has a couple of times a while back, about a few thousand words of the half-million I likely have embedded online. Know what she had to say about it? "Yeah, that's pretty much true." I had to laugh and kiss her on the forehead. I love her pragmatic approach to everything. That's why I married that beauty. My youngest read the story I wrote here about the lesbians, and I adore lesbians who do not hate men, (you non-man-hating lesbians are so stellar and fair and honest!) but I think my daughter was embarrassed by it. But it was true, every word. I hope my little girl at least respects her father for his honesty. I've never lied to her. The language I use in front of her would shock the Sunday preacher. Why would I behave any differently in front of her than I would paling around with my beer-guzzling friends taking in a football game at the local pub? But no lice and no prostitutes. I'm not out for the Happy Hooker award in journalism. I just like to write, and I'm long-winded and unafraid to tell a tale on myself. I know it isn't what people want to buy these days. No boy-wizards, no vampires and werewolves. I know I'm up against it. But I have to be honest, even writing fiction, it has to be based on absolute truth. Steinbeck did that, you know. I'm not anywhere close to Steinbeck's amazing ability to paint a picture with words, but the least I can do is to not embarrass myself writing about where I live when the publication prints the exact opposite representation of it from other writers. One of us will look the fool. They know what makes them money, I'll trust their judgment and move on. No regrets.— November 27, 2010 6:41 p.m.
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A LOT of healthy fear, ma'am. She knows where I store my cast-iron skillets and she knows exactly where I sleep ;)— November 27, 2010 6:09 p.m.
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You are so beautiful. Thank you so much :)— November 27, 2010 5:53 p.m.
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Don't know where Suz is hanging out, but I miss her lots. Closing on Roth, I think that a lot of men are afraid of women. I think that Roth, underneath his character's insecurities, might have simply came straight out and proclaimed that many men are scared as kittens (pun intended, sex with a cat and all). Therein, lies that shame you see. At fifteen all they want to do is to have sex, and they're incapable of enduring the process other than to mate like some wild animal. Sometimes that never goes away in a man, he finds himself still unable to cope with the emotion that his would-be mate feels approaching the same event. The guy worries about getting her bra-strap undone, the girl was past that part a long time ago, she's worrying what he's going to tell his pals the next day before he even has his pants undone. It isn't the act, nothing should ever contain such angst as a man makes sex out to be, but he'll as soon blame a woman for his own insecurity than he'll look at himself in the mirror and admit that he'll never understand what she feels when they're naked and rolling around in the sheets. I think that Roth's inability to rationalize a sexual relationship brought on however the critics receive his work. We're not supposed to understand each other, I've had a lot of time to learn that lesson. We just live with each other, choose mates, no magic wand in that (again, pardon the pun). I've read quite a bit about how neurotic Roth was, but I'm not convinced that us neurotic people aren't our own worst enemies. Everything I ever wanted to teach my kids about sex can be found in the movie 'Bull Durham'. It's a simple thing that a lot of people want to make complex. I'll take Costner and Sarandon over Phillip Roth any day of the week. Clear the milk and the cornflakes off the the breakfast table and ignore the cat, it's a much healthier approach ;)— November 27, 2010 5:13 p.m.
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I wish that Suz was around for this discussion, her literary takes are profound.— November 27, 2010 4:04 p.m.