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re: #13: "This is my playground. I may hate it at times and love it at others but-this is my playground. Interlopers beware." No, actually it is a public forum, and all of us are welcome. Not very long ago, YOU were the interloper, and many of us have had a hard time accepting the fact that you are sticking around, because your speech is still full of celebratory, arrogant hatred. "The men will make and break alliances at whim but most things come full circle. The womenfolk gossip on endlessly." This makes absolutely no sense. You gossip just as 'endlessly' as anyone else, and in fact, you spend much more time on the resident "gossip" threads than any of the female commenters here. It is this kind of division between the sexes that sickens and disgusts many people today, who have learned to understand and treat each other as multi-faceted human beings, rather than as limited cardboard stands of men and women. You can argue all you want about hormonal differences between the sexes, and how we are taught to deal differently with emotions, but when it comes down to it, we are all just people. In my opinion, it is the least adjusted of folk in society who cling desperately to visions of stereotyped male and female roles, as the only way to understand individuals--big mistake. This way of thinking also reinforces sexual norms that repress those who would transgress them, and live as they want to live. If you look up "heteronormative," a word Pike used recently, you will understand a bit better where I am coming from--that is, if you care to try to think a little differently. re: #11: "But, men will be men. It isn't for women to change them, nor even accept them, simply to know that what they write and how they respond is bound to be different and at times in conflict with what a woman wants to hear." Gringo, you'll have to speak for "men" and "women" as you personally conceive of them, of course--especially some idea of "what a woman wants to hear" or the very limiting "men will be men." So does it follow for you that since men and women are so different in the way they write, that we need to analyze them in separate literatures? Do you always know when a work is by a woman or a man? I do not mean to imply that you are as limited in your conceptions of people as social and private beings as Pete demonstrates that he is, but your statements are often nearly as open to the same manner of interpretation. I do not at all agree with or hold much respect for this lazy, fatalist kind of rhetoric of divisiveness--coming from anyone--and I don't respond to it from Cuddle, either. We have been locked into stereotypical roles of "thinking" and "rational" men and "emotional," "illogical," and "gossiping" women for far too long--geez, this crap was dealt with in the first, clumsy wave of feminist thought.
— November 21, 2009 12:32 a.m.

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