Blood Boil

I’ll be the first to admit that the Reader has published some pretty asinine stories in the past, but the one you not only decided to print but also give the cover was enough to make my blood boil (“Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife,” May 8).

It is bad enough you chose to glorify this disgusting, fetid, foul skank of a leech, but to have her further this insult by degrading the uniform I proudly wore for over 20 years of my life makes me physically ill.

How dare you publish an article that glorifies much that is wrong about the narcissistic, me-first element of today’s society? How dare you insult the honor of all who have worn that uniform with the mindless drivel of this self-absorbed dreck of human debris?

What I would give to wipe the smile off the face of that two-legged, whoring garbage can.

Peter J. Fonte
AME1, USN(ret)

Woman With Confidence

“Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife” (Cover Story, May 8) is a wonderfully vivid story told by a woman with confidence. I commend you as the editor and the Reader as a whole for having the strength and vision to publish such a controversial story.

Vincent J. Wainwright
via email

Tubby Loser

Would you go into battle dependent on a lying trailer trash such as the tubby loser you featured in your very questionable cover story (“Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife,” May 8)?

I sure as heck would not want to have her watching my back.

Come on, you can come up with better stories than this.

Tom Schiff
via email

Lost My Respect

I read your cover story “Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife” (May 8) with interest since I am planning on becoming a real Navy wife in the future. I moved to San Diego to do my medical residency and subsequently met my boyfriend/ future fiancé, who is completing his medical residency with the Navy. We are anticipating his deployment in a year and struggling ourselves with the pressure of whether to get married before his deployment or wait until we could be together permanently after he returns.

Obviously the financial benefits of being married are much better than staying single, as Ms. Young points out, not to mention the privileges provided from being a Navy wife, but we are lucky enough to not have to worry as much about financial difficulties, given our future careers in the medical profession.

I thought she did a good job of pointing out how single people are punished and military marriages in general undergo more stress due to the demands of the Navy. However, I firmly disagree with her sweeping statement that ended the article: “The military brings out the bad in them.” While the military may put people in uncomfortable positions with difficult personal life decisions, I believe that every person in the military owes it to themselves and the people they are serving to do the right thing, and they have not lost their free will to make ethically correct decisions. She lost my respect by implying that people can use the military as an excuse to “do bad things” just because things didn’t turn out the way they thought they would.

Name Withheld
by Request

Stooped Low

That was a poor article to place on the front of the Reader (“Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife,” May 8). It was tasteless and inaccurate.

The article was poorly researched, poorly written, praised fraudulent activity, and bashed the very institute that is responsible for her having the ability to talk in public.

She falsely attacked a constituency that is part of San Diego’s economy and who has many family members that live here.

For a paper that has been a solid part of San Diego’s eclectic corner, it is sad that the Reader decided to follow the path of other no-longer-relevant papers. There has been a growing rumor that the Reader is losing readership — apparently the rumor must be true for this paper to stoop to substandard tactics.

How sad the Reader stooped low rather than reaching up.

Dana Pacifica

Navy Not So Bad

I read the Reader not often, but I do read it. I just finished the lead story of the May 8 issue, “Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife,” and while it gave some good information, I felt that it was just way over the top on the fact that everyone in the Navy hates the Navy and that the Navy screws over everyone they possibly can. I’ve been out of the Navy for approximately 30 years, and my experience was nothing like hers. I know a lot of married people that were in the military had absolutely no relationship like she says we had. I just think that this article was below the Reader and you’re a better paper than to publish stuff like this.

Dave Barker
Chula Vista

Refund Request

Maggie Young should request a refund of her journalism class tuition (“Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife,” Cover Story, May 8). I was amazed at the narrative from this apparent piece of white trash (a picture is worth a thousand words) regarding her part in the conspiracy against the federal government and the Navy to commit fraud for economic gain, right up until page 30. There the story jumps the track, and without any preliminaries, she does the right thing and confesses to NCIS agent Darnita Brown that she had committed a violation of the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ.) She later tries to offer the specious argument that if some sailors choose to break their marriage vows by having sex with people other than their spouses, why shouldn’t she be paid to have an exclusive platonic relationship with her coconspirator?

Perhaps she made the fortunate error of being indiscreet while shooting her mouth off to shipmates about successfully gaming the system, and they dropped a dime on her, which led to her successful prosecution. Unfortunately, the American taxpayers are still out the $31,025.10 she stole while receiving the unauthorized BAH payments (minus the $4000 fine).

More from SDReader


Matthew May 17, 2008 @ 5:26 p.m.

Here's the problem.

She was LEGALLY married.

Does the LAW say you have to LOVE another person in order to MARRY them?

DO we have laws pertaining to LOVE?

Her actions may be judged by some of you as immoral, but she didn't do anything that was illegal.


escondido May 18, 2008 @ 7:08 p.m.

I can't believe so many people were offended last week's "Navy Wife" article----this does happen more than you think! I can name at least 5 people in both the Navy and Marines that have done this (and that are still "married") and at least 2 others that agreed to marry someone in the military in order to get benefits or to pad their pockets.

Get your heads out of the sand! Yes, there are marriages that are legit, but there are also many that are not!

The writer does not deserve to be blamed or ridiculed----would it be different if it was a man writing the story instead?


Sign in to comment

Get $5 off any Reader event

Sign up for our email list to get your promo code