Barbarella Fokos

Barbarella Fokos
Barbarella was discovered in 2004 when Reader elves happened along her blog, Barbarella’s Pillow Talk. She has been writing her column, Diary of a Diva ever since. Why the name diva? It’s the best thing we could come up with for a dominant woman, control-freak, and socialite who loves to tell it like it is, even though we all know she’s overcompensating for her inherent nerdiness. Barb continues to blog and posts pics on her personal web site,

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Latest Articles

Royal pain in the wedding

“Every single conflict can be boiled down into one underlying problem, and that’s one person in the family not being happy with another person’s choices.”

Is it worth the wait at Panama 66?

“When my sandwich arrived, all of my irritation faded away.”

Two women who work from home walk into a bar, find a huge crowd, and suddenly realize it’s Friday. “I usually avoid going out on Friday nights,” I say, as we take in the long ...

The "joy" thing

Ponder the act of stopping to think how lucky we are

“The less you have, the easier it is to get dressed and ready. You only keep things you actually like, or as KonMari says, things that bring you joy.”

The hardship of finding good help

Barberica Industries

“You want every person who works for you in any capacity to be able to make the same kind of intuitive decisions you would make, and you’re absolutely unrelenting when they don’t.”

When your Airbnb guest won't leave

And they’re addicted to a video game

It's a steamy afternoon in August, and Kristen Lang sits, frazzled and deflated, on the patio at Ponce's, hoping to cool her exasperation with a margarita. When her husband moved out two years ago, leaving ...

George’s at the Cove offers a one-two punch

It often seems you can either have great food or an amazing view but not both

It often seems you can either have great food or an amazing view but not both, especially in a tourist town. But with all the lovely ocean vistas available to us in the San Diego ...

In love with the child-free life

Even the receptionist at work, who was probably around 40 at the time, took to singing at me each time I passed her desk, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.”

Brunch at Café 21

When the pancake did arrive, it looked impossibly huge

It was a happy coincidence that within a week of enjoying a dinnertime meal at the Georgian restaurant Pomegranate I happened by the similarly exotic menu at Café 21, just to learn that the owners ...

Freak flag

Battling sophistication at the hairline

“I think there’s this fear about it,” David said. “I mean, when I decided to shave my head — that took years of building up courage. Which is ridiculous, because it would have grown back in a matter of weeks.”

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