Barbarella Fokos

Barbarella Fokos
Barbarella was discovered in 2004 when Reader elves happened along her blog, Barbarella’s Pillow Talk. She has been writing her column, Diary of a Diva ever since. Why the name diva? It’s the best thing we could come up with for a dominant woman, control-freak, and socialite who loves to tell it like it is, even though we all know she’s overcompensating for her inherent nerdiness. Barb continues to blog and posts pics on her personal web site,

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Latest Articles

What the heck is “linner”?

You can do it at Stella Public House

“Linner” (a relaxed, late-afternoon feast that covers both lunch and dinner) is one of my favorite meals. Since David and I both work from home, our days have little structure. Sometimes we’ll wake early and ...

Maine lobster in North Park

Pete’s Seafood and Sandwich brings the crustacean

My Boston-bred man loves a good New England style lobster roll. So much so that during our biannual visit to Martha’s Vineyard for the past few years we’ve combed the island to find what David ...

Four sisters + four husbands

Cacophonous din at the Barrel Room

Because I have two sisters who live in North County (one in Poway, the other in San Marcos), David and I occasionally trek north for dinner. The Barrel Room in Rancho Bernardo has proven itself ...

Color me ecstatic

Not in it for the illusion of betterment

All my new materials may have been “professional quality” and “intended for adults,” but when the tip of the pencil touched the page, it was childlike joy that coursed through my veins.

Try a different kind of breakfast

Traditional Japanese at Hinotez

In the United States, the word “breakfast” conjures images of pancakes, bacon, and eggs. Because we’re right on the border, San Diegans might also think chilaquiles or huevos rancheros, which are just variations of an ...

I should be happy

Death on the mind — but not because of Halloween

I couldn’t get the idea of death out of my mind. It occurred to me that the only way to control the most unsettling aspect of the inevitability of death was to plan the when and where.

Stehly Farms Market opens in Kensington

Just about everything is stamped “organic” here

Stehly Farms Market opened its doors to the public on Friday. Kensington-area residents have been eagerly awaiting this day, as it took nearly a year longer than expected for interior construction to be completed in ...

The first 100 to Rakitori get free ramen

Japanese Pub opens in Hillcrest

David and I have been meaning to stop by the new Rakitori Japanese Pub & Grill on University Avenue since we first saw the sign go up nearly three months ago. When we made it ...

Trolley Dances brings site-specific dance from Waterfront to Balboa

More walking than riding, but the annual event is still worth it

After many years of ogling cool images of dancers performing in unexpected locations, and even spreading the word both in this magazine and on the radio, I finally got the chance to experience the San ...

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