I have read this article over and over trying to figure out how the cover page has anything to do with the content of the article? With that being said I would also like to know where the information was gathered to write the assumption that nobody likes the black girls? You know what happens when you ASSume?! I am extremely offended with the cover page and the message that it sends. Its seems as though your statement was more of an opinion and less of educated researched topic of discussion. To be completely honest it is a reality check for those people who believe that we have made so much progress and that racism doesn't exist. Well your cover page just made it painfully obvious that the color lines are still present in 2012! To the author of the cover page I would invite you to take your blinders off and realize that there are more non-black men who are interested in black women than you may think. Let me also refresh your memory to slavery times when there were more slave owners who were trying to get a lot more than a good servant from the women he purchased.
ccastellanos ,I am with you on this I seen this the cover on FB and got upset becouse I know that is was a unture statement and I to was offended the frist thought that came to my mind was that it was propaganda and it hurt my heart that they would stoop so low to get someone to read the article and those that just look at the cover and believe it !
I read this whole article as well, and didn't see any point to the blurb on the cover that said nobody likes Black girls...This upset a lot of my friends yesterday on FB, including me. I have many Black girl friends that only date White men or non Black men exclusively, and the majority of men that approach me to ask me out are non Black. Black women have always been hated by our society and media, yet we have so many other races plumping up their lips with fillers, tanning their skin, making their hair curly, and even getting butt implants to get curves that most Black women have naturally. I'm tired of people perpetuating the stereo type that Black women are not beautiful and nobody likes them. This is completely false. Black women are beautiful and strong women that many men are too intimidated by to approach because we are so confident. Too bad for us we're so strong and beautiful I guess.
I agree, that was a poor choice of quote. It was taken totally out of context. But I also fault the author for not having a clear direction for this article. It's all over the place and I kept trying to figure out how to tie in what I was reading with the title and the quote. What's worse, there was no explanation for why the young man made that statement. It's understood he wants his sister to be in an environment that is supportive of her, but what made him make that statement? Did the author not ask him to elaborate? The entire article was pretty surface, as there were many points that needed to be elaborated on.
Hm, not only is your article completely lackluster, but obviously the cover title is ridiculous and idiotic as well.
Now, my question is...how do the two correlate? You sat up one night and said "hmmm, how should I introduce people to my new article entry? I need something that would stand out. I know! I'll put something ignorant on there! That will get people to support my work! :D"
To print something like this, says a lot about you. Says a lot about the paper you write for. I will never support this publication, EVER, and I will be making noise to ensure others don't either.
Siobhan, please explain how Elizabeth did a good job on this piece? Offensive cover quote aside, the article seemed to have no real point. She started with discussing how excited her daughter gets when she sees other women with a similar hair texture. Then she goes on to explain (at length) how certain areas of San Diego are more diverse than others. Finally, she concludes with a mini-biography of her close friend Delicia and her mixed-race family.
What was the purpose of the article?
What was the purpose of this article? Terrible job by E. Salaam and terrible job by The Reader. I feel offended by the cover and annoyed I wasted my time with this horribly written article.
As a black woman, formerly a black girl, I was extremely offended by the cover and title. It is disgusting that the reader would put out anything that offensive. It does show how the color of a person's skin or the type of hair associated with their race still matters greatly in this country. Whether or not E. Salaam had control over the cover, she did have control over writing that article that lacked any substance.
Amen and Amen!!
I thought it was just fun.. and since everyone feels like they need to announce who they are, Im a big white homo!! Lighten up!!
I really found this article simply a muddled mess of foolishness. I am the product of a white father and a black mother and let me tell you this, my mother made sure that I was a woman who possessed strength that stemmed from the love of self. My mother didn't look for validation for her choices or make excuses for them either. As the mother of what appears to be two bi racial children, I suggest that you and your husband get over the fad of being a mixed raced couple, living in Eastlake and pay attention to the messages that you are sending your children. Unfortunately, I believe that the messages that your children will get will be as mixed up and non sensical as this "story". As the parents of bi racial children, teaching them to run away from that portion of their DNA which will be the most prominent, is pathetic and you as a black woman should be ashamed of yourself. Prepare your children for the real world that they will have to exist in, the real world that will see their blackness and never acknowledge the bit of white that attempts to peek through.
And sooo let's say we exchange the last sentence to "no one likes homosexuals" how would that make you feel? You would probably be outraged. Don't feed me any oh I would have laughed because that's highly unlikely.
I have to agree that I'm not sure what this story is about-- except a lot of public soul-searching. It's one thing to use yourself as a subject, but using your children's experiences to explore your own issues about race seems exploitative to me as a mom. Next time consider more real research and a clearer topic. (And I would make sure my daughter NEVER saw the cover of this story. )
I am not sure how this article is "fun"...it must be due to one's inability to see this story through a lens other than their own...and to tell everyone to calm down is simply insane when it comes to deep sensitive social issues and HISTORY...especially when it hits a nerve that is FOREVER being hit while simultaneously individuals and organizations work diligently to try to OVERCOME such nonsense over and over again. Trust, if you were a "black" girl...the cover of this month's issue would lead you to feel as if, once AGAIN, society has announced that they think something is WRONG with you...it stems from a long bloodline of painful memories related to racism, sexism and those who still think this does not exist. Whether covert or overt, and yes, even one who is "black" can have this mentality. The part that is most hurtful is that the writer somehow may feel that she has enlightened us with a series of experiences, using her children to keep this topic as "light" as possible (although I actually appreciate their honesty and observations just not the way the ADULTS used it), but it is obvious that a true sense of culture has been stripped away by what they have managed to accomplish (not taking anything away from the accomplishments, just saying)...and using Southeast as a basis for, and apparently the only place, "where you can find your roots" in San Diego is ignorant. Culture is everywhere, Honey...and there is ONLY one race and that's the HUMAN RACE. Yes, there are other "smart black kids" in San Diego and some of them live in Southeast...you can also pick up a book, or visit a museum, or look up some of the people who invented some of the products you're using. Anyway, without going to town on this article because I do speak this in LOVE...the cover was very misleading and the article truly let us know that we still have a long way to go.
insult to injury; a white homosexual male is telling black women to chill and that it's all just "fun" having a blurb on the cover of a publication widely circulated in places where young black girls will be naturally drawn to the photo, then assaulted by the text. unbelievable.
comment on something you have a clue about.
Black boys and men do walk around saying what this young man said that was quoted on the cover...it BREAKS MY HEART when I hear it being said, but its real, the article does drag and rambleat different times, but I totally understand...Yes, we have "OVERCOME" I guess, but this topic is a seed that was sown centuries back, for the BLACK family to be non existent, WE have been strategically programmed to hate our beatiful black skin, so here in San Diego the article was daring of her to write and not a surprise, BELIEVE, plenty of Black women have had this topic on their tongue, a topic that is painful...No offense to those of mixed race, or in a interracial relationship, the only one that could feel the pain or sting of the word s on the cover of this magazine could be a BLACK woman...it was a topic that was.desperately needing to be brought up, Can We Stop Getting along just to Get along and Keep it Real on some things!
The cover language is a ridiculous, divisive, untrue and completely offensive! I have no idea why that snippet was chosen to be on the cover when the implications of what it says are so down right degrading! It doesn't even describe what the article is about. The words on the cover do nothing more than perpetuate sterotypes and that is NOT what we need in this day and age. Shame on you San Diego Reader!
This article was a case of much ado about nothing. Perhaps the editor thought that the catch phrase on the cover would sell magazines or garner public attention, however, it is an insult to African-Americans to publish a cover like that and pass it off as an introduction to what turned out to be an assinine article! What can one expect? It's the San Diego Reader, absolutely no social conscious whatsoever. If the author is truly concerned about a certain type of experience for her children, then quite frankly, they might consider forgoing the ocean view property, and move to a neighborhood that does have the diversity she desires, better that than trying to undo the damage to the psyche by being the only "one" in your school, neighborhood, etc.
In response to Randomgirl: Duh, I found a statistic on an internet blog site supporting my argument, it must be true...smh! Maybe instead of a "quick" internet search, you should dig a little deeper for your research.
Not only is this cover in incredibly bad taste, its just plain inaccurate! Black girls are beautiful, and they grow up to be beautiful women too. We need to stop spreading these ignorant messages. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and thank God that not all men are attracted to the same size, shape, hair color, skin color, eye color etc. You get the idea. There are many black men, white men, latino men, etc.who find black women very attractive...that is the right message to send.
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