Nothing like poor choice in quote selection to get folks talking! JEEZ
I'm not sure it was a fair choice,for the author or the young man that made the statement, to use that quote in such a manner that is misleading and taken out of context. Don't editors & journalists have a code of ethics or a sense of social responsibility?
I read this whole article as well, and didn't see any point to the blurb on the cover that said nobody likes Black girls...This upset a lot of my friends yesterday on FB, including me. I have many Black girl friends that only date White men or non Black men exclusively, and the majority of men that approach me to ask me out are non Black. Black women have always been hated by our society and media, yet we have so many other races plumping up their lips with fillers, tanning their skin, making their hair curly, and even getting butt implants to get curves that most Black women have naturally. I'm tired of people perpetuating the stereo type that Black women are not beautiful and nobody likes them. This is completely false. Black women are beautiful and strong women that many men are too intimidated by to approach because we are so confident. Too bad for us we're so strong and beautiful I guess.
I am not sure how this article is "fun"...it must be due to one's inability to see this story through a lens other than their own...and to tell everyone to calm down is simply insane when it comes to deep sensitive social issues and HISTORY...especially when it hits a nerve that is FOREVER being hit while simultaneously individuals and organizations work diligently to try to OVERCOME such nonsense over and over again. Trust, if you were a "black" girl...the cover of this month's issue would lead you to feel as if, once AGAIN, society has announced that they think something is WRONG with you...it stems from a long bloodline of painful memories related to racism, sexism and those who still think this does not exist. Whether covert or overt, and yes, even one who is "black" can have this mentality. The part that is most hurtful is that the writer somehow may feel that she has enlightened us with a series of experiences, using her children to keep this topic as "light" as possible (although I actually appreciate their honesty and observations just not the way the ADULTS used it), but it is obvious that a true sense of culture has been stripped away by what they have managed to accomplish (not taking anything away from the accomplishments, just saying)...and using Southeast as a basis for, and apparently the only place, "where you can find your roots" in San Diego is ignorant. Culture is everywhere, Honey...and there is ONLY one race and that's the HUMAN RACE. Yes, there are other "smart black kids" in San Diego and some of them live in Southeast...you can also pick up a book, or visit a museum, or look up some of the people who invented some of the products you're using. Anyway, without going to town on this article because I do speak this in LOVE...the cover was very misleading and the article truly let us know that we still have a long way to go.
I have read this article over and over trying to figure out how the cover page has anything to do with the content of the article? With that being said I would also like to know where the information was gathered to write the assumption that nobody likes the black girls? You know what happens when you ASSume?! I am extremely offended with the cover page and the message that it sends. Its seems as though your statement was more of an opinion and less of educated researched topic of discussion. To be completely honest it is a reality check for those people who believe that we have made so much progress and that racism doesn't exist. Well your cover page just made it painfully obvious that the color lines are still present in 2012! To the author of the cover page I would invite you to take your blinders off and realize that there are more non-black men who are interested in black women than you may think. Let me also refresh your memory to slavery times when there were more slave owners who were trying to get a lot more than a good servant from the women he purchased.
Hm, not only is your article completely lackluster, but obviously the cover title is ridiculous and idiotic as well.
Now, my question is...how do the two correlate? You sat up one night and said "hmmm, how should I introduce people to my new article entry? I need something that would stand out. I know! I'll put something ignorant on there! That will get people to support my work! :D"
To print something like this, says a lot about you. Says a lot about the paper you write for. I will never support this publication, EVER, and I will be making noise to ensure others don't either.
Siobhan, please explain how Elizabeth did a good job on this piece? Offensive cover quote aside, the article seemed to have no real point. She started with discussing how excited her daughter gets when she sees other women with a similar hair texture. Then she goes on to explain (at length) how certain areas of San Diego are more diverse than others. Finally, she concludes with a mini-biography of her close friend Delicia and her mixed-race family.
What was the purpose of the article?
What was the purpose of this article? Terrible job by E. Salaam and terrible job by The Reader. I feel offended by the cover and annoyed I wasted my time with this horribly written article.
As a black woman, formerly a black girl, I was extremely offended by the cover and title. It is disgusting that the reader would put out anything that offensive. It does show how the color of a person's skin or the type of hair associated with their race still matters greatly in this country. Whether or not E. Salaam had control over the cover, she did have control over writing that article that lacked any substance.
I really found this article simply a muddled mess of foolishness. I am the product of a white father and a black mother and let me tell you this, my mother made sure that I was a woman who possessed strength that stemmed from the love of self. My mother didn't look for validation for her choices or make excuses for them either. As the mother of what appears to be two bi racial children, I suggest that you and your husband get over the fad of being a mixed raced couple, living in Eastlake and pay attention to the messages that you are sending your children. Unfortunately, I believe that the messages that your children will get will be as mixed up and non sensical as this "story". As the parents of bi racial children, teaching them to run away from that portion of their DNA which will be the most prominent, is pathetic and you as a black woman should be ashamed of yourself. Prepare your children for the real world that they will have to exist in, the real world that will see their blackness and never acknowledge the bit of white that attempts to peek through.
I have to agree that I'm not sure what this story is about-- except a lot of public soul-searching. It's one thing to use yourself as a subject, but using your children's experiences to explore your own issues about race seems exploitative to me as a mom. Next time consider more real research and a clearer topic. (And I would make sure my daughter NEVER saw the cover of this story. )
In addition, I think it's up to parents of all colors to teach thier kids to appreciate all races and ethnicities. The media is not helping by making negative images of Black woman, and other races, and teenagers like J are easily influenced by the media. Teenagers want to be liked, and are followers, (like making fun of the Black American idol contestants) so parents need to teach them to be leaders and not to be closed minded. If they were educated by the schools on our history from slavery to freedom, and learned our accomplishments and success, maybe they would have a better understanding of why we are so hated and treated negatively.
-A Black woman in San Diego that Black and Non-Black men like
First of all.. to say lighten up by another comment is clearly missing the point. To say that this person wrote a great article or that perhaps there something was taken out of context and the writer has no control over what is on the cover is completely irrevelant. The point is it was irrespoinsible for editor of this publication. The cover simply insites a whole host of misconceptions. Even if the cover was meant to create a shock factor for people to read the magazine is inexcusable. I get it but not socially responsible. There is freedom of speech, but there is also I feel a journalistic responsibilty to be conscious of the information you are disseminating and the message it sends. I believe there should be an embarrasment that there should be such carelessness with the cover and then to follow that up with fact that article was not only irrevelant but poorly written. I am not one to bash anyone, but facts are facts...it was not a quality piece and was difficult to follow and understand it's message.It was personal opinion that could and should have been in a blog. Not in the Reader. I was waiting for it to make some sense or disprove me from believing that the offensive cover was a complete misleading slap in the face of all black women. I am extremely dissapointed that the Reader is this desperate to have a piece fill their paper or rally readers. Someone thought this was an insighful thought provoking cover and article. Well they were wrong. Couldn't be further from the truth. Thank you for continuing the ignorance. There is no need to defend the beauty of black women. Let it speak for itself and with that said there is no need for this paper to take it in it's own hands to address this issue since obviouslythey are ill equipped. Stick to current events, restaurant reviews, and botox ads.
insult to injury; a white homosexual male is telling black women to chill and that it's all just "fun" having a blurb on the cover of a publication widely circulated in places where young black girls will be naturally drawn to the photo, then assaulted by the text. unbelievable.
comment on something you have a clue about.
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