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I had this in mind when the birthday boy was saying goodbye before stepping out to join his crew at the club. “I’m sorry for my friends,” he said to the small circle of three standing around him. The host, polite to the end, said, “Not to worry, all is well”; his wife, gracious to her core, said, “If they’re anything like you, I know they must be wonderful.”

I gave him a hug and said, “It was great to see you; have a fabulous rest-of-your-birthday.” Then, breaking my own rules of etiquette, I added, “But, wow, those friends of yours sure are a bunch of bitches.” I looked to the stunned host and said, “Sorry. Couldn’t help myself.”

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alansez Nov. 22, 2008 @ 9:35 a.m.

Lets assume that pack of seven managed to get to adulthood without somehow learning manners. It is any favor to them to act as though there was nothing wrong with their behavior? Thereby teaching them that "all is well" so just continue as you are.

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MsGrant Nov. 22, 2008 @ 9:48 a.m.

Good manners dictate that you do not counter rudeness with more rudeness. The host and hostess acted properly, and the outcome should be no further invites to the guests that behaved so discourteously by bringing univited "guests". Ones that exhibit boorish behavior seldom understand even gentle attempts to guide them in the ways of decent social skills, and they are best left to fend for themselves. Alone.

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Barbarella Fokos Nov. 22, 2008 @ 10:11 a.m.

It's a good point, Alan... and one of the reasons I blurted to the one I am closest with that his friends were bitches. But I also agree with MsGrant, especially when the rude ones are virtual strangers, that it would be rude for me to presume to instruct other adults how to behave -- if I don't like the way people behave, especially if they're not friends, I simply choose not to associate with them. Time is a valuable thing, and as altruistic as I may feel on occasion, I don't waste mine on people I don't like. Unfortunately for my schedule, I tend to like nearly everyone. ;)

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pete78 Nov. 22, 2008 @ 3:17 p.m.

I would have pepper sprayed those people.

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Barbarella Fokos Nov. 23, 2008 @ 10:22 a.m.

Pete, it's a good thing I don't pack pepper spray. A good thing. ;)

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