If you were working within a budget to throw a wedding and you had to choose a limited number of people to invite and pay for , would you choose someone you rarely speak to? Someone who doesn't even know your last name? On the flip side, why would you ever expect someone to pay for your dinner and good time at their wedding when you only see them on occasion at a mutual friend's house?
I'm not 14 anymore. I do not expect my friends, whom I imagine are as busy as I am, to invite me to every gathering or outing they organize. I certainly do not expect people who don't like me to throw invitations my way, and I accept the reality that not everyone likes me and I respect their opinions. It's impossible for everyone to like everyone else.
Sometimes you stop liking the people you used to like, and that's okay. There are simply too many people in the world with whom I get along to spend any time lamenting the loss of those who fall by the wayside. My advice to myself earlier this year, the advice I still live by in order to cope with what some call "elitism" but I call "common sense," is as follows: Know whose company you enjoy, and minimize the time you spend with all the rest. It's your life. Don't waste it on things as silly and ineffective as obligation and guilt.