Longtime lover Lee Ann learned that Larry Hoagland was still living in the house with his wife when San Diego detectives told her. That was on September 28, 2010, five days after Connie Hoagland was injured by a bomb blast.
Not Lady MacBeth
These are excerpts from different text messages that Lee Ann sent to Larry in June 2010: “I am exhausted of your whining…I can’t handle your insecurities…I feel you expect me to be fine with all this and all lovey dovey. I can’t. I have been disappointed too many times…I think sometimes you want me to give up. I am sick of babying you. You have to do what you have to do…I just can’t count on you…You are insecure after all of this…I thought things would be different and I thought you were stronger and more motivated than you are…I love you but you are weak and I need you to be a strong motivated man.
“I am tired of all your words.”
In July 2010, she texted: “Three years of this I am getting worried and tired of all this” and “I just hate this situation. I don’t know if you are going to leave me hanging here forever.”
By August 2010, Lee Ann claimed she was trying to break up with Larry. She was embarrassed when friends pointed out that she was “the other woman” to a man cheating on his wife. She wanted Larry properly divorced, and then she wanted him to marry her. “You know, it wasn’t happening, and I was tired of the excuses.”
Her text messages in August 2010 included: “You are not the man I thought you were…I need someone energetic [who] knows what they want in life and goes for it and does not wait till it’s too late. I am sorry Larry…I realized this weekend that the 3 years was fun but I was having an affair with a married man and people warned me about that. I thought we were different…I thought about it a lot last night and came to the conclusion that you are just waiting around another month going through the motions. I feel like you are wasting precious time and should be doing something not sure what but trying harder to make us happen…”
On September 1, 2010, Lee Ann sent this: “I can’t heal until you do things right by me that is the bottom line. Time not words. I have heard a lot of words over the years it’s overdue for change.” One week later, the first pipe bomb was found in the street a few blocks from the Hoaglands’ home.
Larry Hoagland was a steady, devoted sort of man. He first worked at Professional Photographic Services as an apprentice in 1981, when he was 19. Back then, he made photo prints by hand.
Larry and Connie married in 1985. He was 23, and she was 26. They raised three kids. They were active in their church. Larry Hoagland said he considered his 25-year marriage to Connie “very happy.”
Larry worked steadily at Professional Photographic Services and became a partner in 2006. Coincidentally, that was the same year Lee Ann contacted him and told him her marriage was failing. “I told her Connie and I were also drifting apart,” Larry said.
According to Larry, he and Lee Ann decided to make their relationship “permanent” in 2008.
Throughout 2010, Larry described his marriage to Connie as “very friendly but [full of] tension. We drifted apart.” He said he did not hate his wife. “Oh, no. We never argued.” They had “discussions” but never a “heated argument.”
He said he “never really believed in divorce,” but eventually came to the conclusion that he “just wanted to move on.” Larry said he wanted to “just leave.” He planned to “serve papers and drive off.” He hoped for a “very quiet exit.”
Larry confirmed that the plan was for Lee Ann to fly out to California. Then they would drive off together and leave San Diego behind. So, when were you going to inform Connie that you wanted a divorce? “It sounds so cold, [but] just about when I was leaving the house. That sounds so cowardly.”
Larry admitted that he told a lot of lies, to both Lee Ann and his wife. Connie believed all those trips to Pennsylvania were paid for by a client named “Bob.” Why did you tell all those lies for all those years? “Just to keep peace, I guess.”
Things Are Picking Up Speed
On September 21, 2010, Larry texted to Lee Ann that he loved her. He said he was going to Fry’s, an electronics store. There he bought some alligator clips. He paid cash. Investigators found this interesting, since alligator clips were used in both pipe bombs.
On September 22, Larry texted encouragement to his faraway love. “Things are picking up speed.”
On September 23, the day of the bomb blast, Larry texted Lee Ann 25 times. In almost every message, he told her that he loved her. It was a little before 8:00 p.m., California time, when Larry told Lee Ann that his wife had been in some sort of accident and was now in the hospital.
The Day of the Explosion
The Hoagland home became crowded in 2010. Larry and Connie still had their youngest child, a 15-year-old son, at home. And their two adult daughters, 24 and 20, had moved back in after one divorced and the other lost her job. The older daughter brought her three-year-old baby with her.
Connie was in fact relieved that Larry was traveling so much and that he so often worked late. He had become so short with her. Finances were bad. “He kept telling me, ‘We have no money, don’t spend any money.’” They began to miss their house payments in late 2009 and started bankruptcy proceedings in January 2010.
Connie liked her job at the residential daycare; she’d worked there for 15 years. Usually, she brought her grandson to work with her, but that Thursday morning, the little boy went to the zoo with his mom.