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"Because I was pursuing my own goals, I didn't settle into a stable marriage until I was 32. In an earlier era that would not have been the case.

"I've also got that assertiveness that previous generations of women didn't have; you know, I feel that I have that self-esteem and the self-focus. Oh, and chapter five, about thinking that marching in the streets isn't going to do any good, I totally fit that."

"How are you not like the statistics for Generation Me?"

"I really question a lot of those messages that this generation takes for granted, but I think it was through the process of working on the book that that happened.

"I haven't ever gone through a really, really major depression but I've certainly had the anxiety."

"You're a university professor, you've published this book that's being widely received, you're famous, you're going to be on the Today Show, why did it come together for you when it hasn't come together for so many others of your generation?"

"You didn't see me in my 20s. I mean, seriously, when I was a post-doc making $25,000 a year, living in Cleveland, by myself and depressed, with no permanent job and a relationship in the toilet, and everything else. So, it took like a good ten years of not-so-great years, to get to the good stuff where finally things have worked out. And I actually think that happens. I've seen that in a lot of my friends' lives -- their 20s are hell, and then slowly in their 30s things begin to work out."

"So, the promises may come in some form but not as quickly as one would like?"

"It's not going to be as soon as you'd like because we're also a very impatient generation. We think that we're going to get all of this stuff when we're 23, and it actually is probably going to take a lot longer, if it happens at all. So, that's the first thing. And it may not happen in the way that you think it's going to happen. You may get what you need and not what you want.

"I think all of us expected to end up as professors at major universities in the place we wanted to live. None of us have gotten all of those things. I got the place I wanted to live, and I feel extremely lucky for that. But I didn't get the major university part quite as much. And then another friend of mine got his major university job, but he's a New Yorker and he's in Nebraska."

"Compromise."

"We were not taught that when we were younger and it's hard. We've had to learn how to do that with housing and with jobs and all of that stuff."

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