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— And if he does?

"Then we usually don't touch anybody here. We can throw a guy out without touching him. It's pretty great. We get on the headphones and have as much security present as possible. And then we just kind of surround the guy and let him know that he's not welcome. Most guys will just leave if they aren't allowed to drink or talk to anyone and if they have to try to fight, like, six or seven guys."

Correia, back at P.B. Bar & Grill, tells a similar tale. "I can't even remember the last time I saw a security guy throw a punch or do something where I thought, 'Whoa, you shouldn't be treating the guy that way.' You know, things have changed a lot in the last few years, ever since they started cracking down on public drunkenness and public fighting. Our bosses make it clear how much or how little force we're able to use. And now that we're in the age of the lawsuit, it seems like pretty much everyone complies."

He knows. He's done the job since the early '90s. After a night of interviews, I found that most bouncers are into their jobs for the long term. I found 14 of them who've worked security at various clubs for five years or more. For many, it's a second profession, a job they can work sporadically and at night. And quite a few of them have families at home to look after.

I wonder where the reality is between the bouncer's humanity and the bouncer's image, the way they are and the way we treat them and feel treated by them.

For a few mediating words about the subject and some grand advice from the wise, I click on www.askmen.com. "Although bouncers are just like everyone else, when you are waiting in line to get into a club, they are literally your ticket in. Do not, and I repeat, do not act cocky and arrogant. None of that, 'Hey man, come on, can't you do better than that?' or 'Buddy, just let us in.' Not only will you not get into the club, you will never be able to show your face in line again. And don't try to act cooler than the bouncer. Respect him and establish a rapport with him by being friendly. And if that doesn't work, then slip him a Benjamin."

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