There is an old adage that says, “Looking for a job is harder than working.” How true. The rigors of job search are magnified by the turmoil we experience: lack of self-confidence, humiliation, financial pressure, and the undercurrent of emotions that color all we do – the toxic mix of fear, anger, depression, anxiety, loss.
One practical step we can take to lower the stress, conserve our energy for finding work, and not feed our bloated worries is to manage our time effectively. Have you ever noticed that you get more chores done when you’re busy? If time is limited, we squeeze in those extra demands, because we know they have to get done by a deadline, and we fear putting them off. When time is unlimited, such as when you take a few days off work, there is no pressure to rush. “I’ve got four days, I’ll do it tomorrow.” Suddenly, you are back at work and realize that you didn’t accomplish half of what you had planned.
This lack of structure is magnified when you are unemployed. There is no pressure to get up, get dressed, get out of the house by a specific time. We know we have things to do. We need to update our résumé, create some new cover letters, research some possible job openings.
It is so hard to get started, because we hate having to do it. We don’t feel creative or excited about the whole prospect, and we dread having to go through the horrors of interviewing. We procrastinate, we tell ourselves that when we are ready, it will just “flow.” For a few hours, a few days, we indulge ourselves and relax. When the end of the month arrives and we compare our diminishing bank balance to our multiplying bills, we mentally beat ourselves up for not having accomplished what we had so earnestly intended.
Now we generate our own pressure, magnified by guilt and self-reproach. Stress levels and blood pressure rise. We feel resentful, angry, depressed. “I didn’t ask to get into this situation. It’s unfair. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.”
Adopting a reasonable schedule can avoid reaching this point. Try these ideas:
Take a day to do nothing, but use that day to plan out what you are going to do, and when.
Concentrate on not over-committing yourself. You may be used to working eight or more hours per day and think that is what you will now spend on job search. Remember that adage: your hunt for work is a lot more difficult than simply walking into a familiar workplace and pursuing your daily routine. Recognize that and limit your job hunting to fewer hours per day.
If you rigorously limit your job hunt-related activities to four hours per day to start (you can always increase later), you may find yourself forced to stop before you are ready. This creates the impetus to get you going the following day – you can hardly wait to get back to what you are working on.
When your “work time” is over, stop. Consciously focus your attention on relaxation. Take a walk, read a book, throw a ball, watch television, whatever pleases you. You will be able to relax because you know you completed exactly what you planned. The guilt, and the sense of “I should have, I should be” no longer exist, and you are free, for a short time anyway, to do anything you want.
Identify your priorities by looking at what day of the week is best for each kind of activity. If you are searching the classifieds, Sunday is the premium time to do it. If you are networking or cold calling, concentrate on the morning weekday hours. Agency visits, whether for temporary work or head hunting, can be relegated to the afternoons when employers are difficult to reach and already fatigued.
Analyze your own daily energy patterns and put them to work for you. Make sure that during your high-energy periods you are out there contacting people and presenting yourself. Use your low energy times for solitary, mundane tasks such as researching companies and jobs, organizing your paperwork, planning your next day’s activities.
The inevitable stress of unemployment and job searching can never be totally eliminated. But by managing your time and being gentle with yourself, you can turn a painful situation into a nothing more than an uncomfortable nuisance.