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Rectitude (n.), the formal, dignified demeanor assumed by a proctologist immediately before he examines you. — Unknown

"Are you sure you don’t mind if I eat in front of you?” I asked, as I moved up in line between a man in a white coat and a woman wearing camouflage fatigues. Dad had been instructed not to eat solids for 20 hours before the invasive butt-check he was about to undergo, so I knew he had to be hungry.

“Really, honey, go ahead,” he said. “I just wish I had cash. I should be buying your breakfast.” It was the third time he’d expressed his remorse for being cashless, despite having already informed me that the doctors told him to leave everything but his ID at home. “Because they can’t be responsible for what happens to your stuff while you’re out of commission,” he’d explained.

“There’s no reason you should have to feed me,” I said. “I should have eaten before coming to get you. Anyway, it’s less than two bucks. That’s pocket change. Don’t worry about it.” As I’d hoped, Dad’s sudden awareness of a bargain in his midst superseded his distress over not being able to provide for his daughter. Like a shiny piece of foil to a raccoon, a good deal to my father is an object of infatuation, a glowing gem that mesmerizes.

I collected my breakfast — egg and cheese on a wheat English muffin — and joined Dad on the other side of the rope. “We’ve got plenty of time for me to sit and eat this here, right?” It was a rhetorical question; we had 45 minutes to make our way up the elevator to the fourth floor.

“The girl I spoke with on the phone asked me to not be there before a certain time,” Dad said. “I can understand why she’d say that because military guys — especially older military guys — would be here at six o’clock in the morning for an eight o’clock appointment, just waiting.”

“Why’s that?”

“No one wants to be a bell-tapper,” he explained. “I’m pathologically punctual. The military teaches you to be prepared, so when you’re told to be somewhere at eight, that means all checked in and ready to go at eight.”

We were checked in with half an hour to spare. I set up my satellite office (laptop, headphones, iPhone, chargers) in the corner of the room, away from the giant TV that was blaring national headlines. Dad sat beside me and handed me his keys, glasses, and cap for safekeeping.

“I was practicing jokes last night,” I said. “I was going to bust ’em on you this morning, but you never set me up. I was expecting you to be all uptight about me wanting to drive my car instead of yours, so I was going to say, ‘What, you got a stick up your ass?’ and then I’d wait a beat and add, ‘Oh, no, that comes later.’” I chuckled at my quip. The look on my father’s face confirmed my suspicion that it was a lot funnier in my head.

“You’re lucky you didn’t make me laugh,” Dad said. Then, emphasizing his native Brooklyn accent, he added, “You wouldn’t want that your nice new car should meet with some kind of ‘accident.’”

“Ew, Dad, gross!” I guffawed and then put a hand over my mouth as others cast irritated glances in my direction. It was nice to be in a lighthearted mood in that place. The last time I’d accompanied my father to the hospital, we’d learned he needed radiation to treat a spot of cancer on his forehead.

Just before Dad’s name was called, he leaned over and said, “I can’t wait for people to ask me how the colonoscopy went so I can say, ‘It was great, they found my head.’” At my bemused expression, Dad elaborated, “Because it was up my ass…get it?” My face was blank. “You need a Plexiotomy, a little Plexiglas window in your belly button because your head’s so far up your ass you need to see where you’re going, then you’d know,” Dad joked. I still didn’t entirely get it, but I laughed anyway. The nurse who came to collect him told me it should only be an hour and a half, unless my father had a “mean colon.” I retorted that his colon was the least “mean” part of the man’s body.

Once Dad had been led away, I put on my headphones, cranked up the volume, and bounced in my seat as I toggled between tweeting on my phone and typing on my laptop. During a Sasha & Digweed track, my mind drifted back to five years ago, when Dad had undergone a sigmoidoscopy, during which the little camera on a wire only rounds one corner of the colon. It was quite the event, as I recalled; Dad had been proud of what he claimed the doctor had called his “beautiful canal.” He had been conscious throughout, and the doctor had even allowed him to gaze upon the video screen depicting his “healthy, pink, and beautiful” innards.

After what seemed like only moments, the nurse reappeared to collect me. She

waited patiently for me to pack up three chairs’ worth of my things and then led me through the labyrinth to my father’s curtain.

I was surprised to see Dad in his hospital gown, lying flat against the small metal bed with an IV in his arm. I knew they were sedating him, but until that moment, I hadn’t realized how incapacitating the checkup really was. His eyes were wide open, but they had a glassy quality, and his smile was a bit looser than usual. A young man in uniform with a clipboard in hand explained the follow-up procedure and asked me (the sober one) to sign on the dotted line. But just because Dad wasn’t technically able at the moment didn’t mean he wasn’t with it.

“Hey, you know what they call a Jamaican proctologist?”

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angelp Oct. 14, 2009 @ 1:17 p.m.

your dad sound like a great guy, hope all is well on that end... (no pun intended)

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SDaniels Oct. 14, 2009 @ 3:51 p.m.

I get at least two of these a year, and have learned to insist on being knocked out under general. No fun waking up during endos at all, upper or lower. Sounds like your dad opts for the local, if he's able to peruse his 'canals' :)

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antigeekess Oct. 14, 2009 @ 5:26 p.m.

Glad to hear your dad is taking care of himself, and that his innards are so pink and lovely. Most old-school military types would rather croak than go see a doc.

Mine did. Colon cancer, 20 years ago.

Get that colonoscopy, guys.

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pinkshoes Oct. 14, 2009 @ 6:51 p.m.

Thanks Barbarella, Having lost my dad almost 10 years ago I am constantly missing his witty banter. Your dad sounds like he was cut from the same cloth. It warms my heart to "hear his voice" again (in a manner of speaking).

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deniseathome Oct. 14, 2009 @ 8:02 p.m.

If your dad likes a deal take him to the M hotel the next time you are in Las Vegas. The senior discount kicks in at age 50 with a player's card and the buffet not only as above average food, beer and wine are free.It's also the only hotel that I know of with a full pharmacy in the lobby.

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vicedevice Oct. 16, 2009 @ 3:23 p.m.

I love your writing style. I look forward to your article each week. Your style just flows and your honesty is pure, thats great. Anyway your Father sounds like a member of the Greatest Generation. Just a guess. But what a gentleman anyway. They always put others ahead of themselves. And it sounds like you love your Dad alot, what a heartwarming story. Barb, Keep up the good work and making my week:)))

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